Your Attachment Style Is Not Your Identity - It Is Your Armor

You have taken the quiz. You know your type. Anxious. Avoidant. Disorganized. Secure.

You have taken the quiz. You know your type. Anxious. Avoidant. Disorganized. Secure.

You have read the books, listened to the podcasts, identified your patterns, and now you use your attachment style as an explanation for why your relationships keep failing.

'I am anxiously attached,' you say, as if it is a diagnosis. 'I am avoidantly attached,' you say, as if it is a life sentence.

And in doing so, you have taken a brilliant map for understanding your relational patterns and turned it into a cage. Your attachment style is not your identity. It is your armor.