Why Being Nice Is the Most Violent Thing You Can Do to Yourself

What if the very trait society praises most, being nice, is actually a form of violence against your true self? When you constantly suppress your authentic thoughts and feelings to please others, you're committing the ultimate betrayal against who you really are.

You're killing yourself with kindness. And I don't mean that in some cute, metaphorical way.

I mean you are literally strangling the life force out of yourself every time you smile when you want to scream.

Every time you say "sure, no problem" when your whole body is screaming "absolutely not." Every time you swallow your truth to keep someone else comfortable.

After thirty years of doing this work, after sitting with thousands of people in readings, I can tell you something: the nicest people are often the most violent people I know.