When Someone You Love Is a Narcissist - And You Finally See It

The recognition does not come as a thunderbolt.

The recognition does not come as a thunderbolt.

It comes as a slow, sickening realization that unfolds over weeks, months, sometimes years - the gradual dawning that the person you have been contorting yourself to love, to please, to understand, to fix, has been operating from a completely different playbook than you thought.

They were not struggling to love you. They were using you. And the most devastating part is not the using.

The most devastating part is how long you let it happen because you confused their need for your love with love itself. I want to be clear about something before we go further.