Enmeshment - When Love Has No Edges and You Cannot Tell Where You End and They Begin

You do not know what you want for dinner. Not because you are indecisive but because the question itself does not compute.

You do not know what you want for dinner. Not because you are indecisive but because the question itself does not compute.

What you want has never been a category that existed independently of what the other person wants.

Your desires have always been a derivative - calculated from their preferences, their mood, their likely response. You learned to want what would produce the least friction.

You learned to prefer what would keep the peace. You learned to crave what they craved and to lose your appetite when they were not hungry. And you called this closeness.