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How To Be Appropriately Loving & Intimate With Coaching Clients

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How To Be Loving, Caring, And Appropriately Intimate With Your Coaching Clients

Being a loving and caring coach is an art that strikes a balance between intimacy and professionalism. You must simultaneously be able to break down barriers and get to know your clients well and be able to maintain a level of distance so that you can appropriately and objectively guide them. To be too removed from them will cause a lack of trust and effectiveness in your advice, while to be too intimate can cloud your judgment and make it difficult to apply the right level of force and challenge.

As an intuitive life and business coach, I’ve had a long time to contemplate just how intimate and loving I should be during sessions. In the early days, it took time to figure out the spectrum of intimacy and what techniques were most effective. Now, I’d like to pass on what I’ve learned to you so that you can begin building healthy relationships with your own coaching clients.

First, Learn To Be Loving and Forgiving of Yourself

The first part of learning how to effectively participate in any social interaction with another person is to apply the situation to yourself. If you were in your client’s shoes, how would you want to be treated by a coach?

This is a wonderful exercise because you should begin building a daily routine, if you haven’t already, that includes meditation to clear your energy for the day and practice self-love and forgiveness. I swear by one of my favorite prayers called the Ho’Oponopono prayer, which is a Hawaiian tradition of bringing things back into balance through forgiveness.

There are many other prayers, mantras, rituals, and sutras that you can add to your routine to prepare for your clients. If you’re interested in this Hawaiian self-forgiveness prayer, however, try this:

Find silence, breathe, and maybe close your eyes to turn inward or look into a mirror to really confront yourself. Then, repeat this phrase:

“I’M SORRY, PLEASE FORGIVE ME, THANK YOU, I LOVE YOU”

You can repeat this prayer a hundred times a day if you’d like. I find it is so cleansing, relieving, and helpful for getting through the day. By emptying yourself of any regrets, hurts, and guilts, you can appropriately show up for your clients. You won’t project your feelings and personal issues onto them. Instead, you can be there for them, be a sounding board, and take on each new challenge with a blank slate.

Isn’t that how you’d want to be treated?

Deep forgiveness can come through divination tools like The Shankara Oracle.

Express Appreciation and Gratitude to Your Old and New Coaching Clients

Once you’re properly loving yourself, you can extend that light to others. Every new coaching client is a gift, and they are gifting you further by allowing you into their lives intimately and asking for help. Acknowledging that you need help and seeking the right source for guidance is a huge deal, so you should make sure your coaching clients get the appreciation and support they deserve.

Make sure that at the start of your journey together, that appreciation is expressed. Express that gratitude and encouragement at the beginning of every session as well because they’ve chosen to come back and keep going!

Everyone expresses appreciation differently, so don’t be scared to get creative and keep it unique to you. Regardless of how you choose to show this gratitude, make sure it is genuine. Connect with your coaching client, make them feel seen and heard, and embrace them with your light and love. 

I’m so proud of you for taking this path for yourself.

I’m so grateful you’ve chosen me to go on this journey with you.

Thank you for continuing to trust me with your goals.

The more appreciated your coaching client feels, the more they’ll begin to trust you, break down walls, and in turn, move forward in their growth.

Create a Space Devoid of Judgement

Cleansing yourself of guilt, hurt, and regrets is such a good idea when coaching because it allows you to extend forgiveness and acceptance to your clients. Your coaching clients have come to you for help because they know they need it – they don’t need to be reminded or berated for mistakes or flaws. In order for them to move forward and make progress, they need a fully comfortable space free of judgment.

To best serve your coaching clients, you’ll need to get to know them very well and learn the intricate webs of their lives. The only way a client will let you in fully to every detail and nuance is if you make them feel that they can say and do anything without being judged. They need to feel like you are a safe confidant is who only there to help pull out of jams, fix errors, and find the best way forward.

In other words, you are to your coaching clients what doctors are for the injured and sick. You are there as a professional who just needs to know as much information as possible in order to make the correct diagnosis and create a treatment plan – not to make the client feel bad for how they got in that tough space or make them feel that they’ve caused the problems they now find themselves dealing with. When a coaching client truly feels comfortable with you, they’ll open up fully, tell you everything you need to know, and be much more willing to participate in the exercises you’ve suggested with full enthusiasm and trust.

Patience is a Virtue

I have no doubt in my mind that you’ve heard the phrase, “patience is a virtue.” There are two sides to this: patience is so very important in every aspect of your life, but it is also a skill that must be practiced and honed, and it is difficult to maintain.

Coaching clients have come to you with a list of problems, and you are tasked with helping guide them to the other side. When you have many clients, you’ll have a wide range of clients. Some might have difficult issues yet have very fast journeys to realization and reach success quickly. Others might have seemingly minor issues, but they struggle every step of the way. Some coaching clients might just not be working out at all. You need to exercise patience in every scenario.

Frequently remind yourself that you should always be seeing things from their point of view. How would you want your coach to treat you if you had some very deep-seated, complex issues? How would you want your coach to act if you were struggling for a long time on something that seemed so simple for others? What about if you were stuck and every session you attended made you lose more faith in your abilities?

As a coach, you might feel frustrated, but remember that you’re on the other side of things. How much more frustrated and lost must your client feel when these issues are directly affecting them personally? It’s your job to help show them the light at the end of the tunnel, and maybe every pivot to try new techniques and stay flexible rather than give up on them.

Stay Present with Your Coaching Clients

Many times, I have coaching clients who come to me after everyone else in their lives, whether personal or professional or both, have heard about their issues thousands of times and don’t want to be involved anymore or have given up on them. Maybe they feel that no one else is there to support them, love them, and listen to them. You might be all they have.

Enter every new client journey and session with the attitude that you are all that the client has. You’re the only resource to help them reach their goals, and you’re the only person that’s supporting them, loving them, and caring for them every step of the way. With this attitude, you’ll learn to stay fully present for each client. You’ll listen to every word and put every ounce of your effort and care into their guidance.

The client needs to feel that their journey is the most important thing on your plate and that you are completely invested in their success! Always respond to their needs in a timely and loving manner. 

REMEMBER!

You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

Pray for others and the Universe prays for us.

 

Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards – all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE

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Mind vs Soul – What Are The Truly Spiritual Modalities?

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Mind vs Soul – What Are The Truly Spiritual Modalities?

Trauma and pain can happen on so many levels. At the most basic, superficial level, our physical bodies can experience pain and trauma that requires physical healing from medical doctors and holistic practices like Traditional Chinese Medicine. When you dive a bit deeper, you might experience pain and trauma mentally and emotionally. You might go to see a therapist or psychologist to work through the pain or try natural calming remedies like breathing techniques and essential oils as you recover. Truly spiritual modalities, however, can heal on the levels that build the foundation for the rest of our wellbeing: our energy and soul.

There is much debate about which modalities are truly effective for spiritual healing. There is no standard or set schools for shamans and healers – instead, they follow their own paths and hone their own unique skills. When it comes down to it, only you can determine which techniques work best for you on your healing journey. I’m only here to guide you by offering spiritual modalities that can support full healing.

What is a Mind Modality?

The phrase “mind over matter” is truly more than just a phrase – it’s reality. The powers of the mind are still way beyond what scientists have yet discovered, and we may never be able to put into words or prove through academic research just how much it can do. Bill Mckenna, the founder of the Cognomovement, is a shaman who regularly talks about how the mind is so powerful that it can literally manifest anything we want into reality.

He explains that our chakras and mind are interconnected, and by practicing our skills of releasing attachments, we can better gain control of our energy flows. Further, by controlling our energy better, we can manifest physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. His techniques mainly rely on detaching ourselves from negative thoughts through tactile and visualization practices. schedule-intuitive-reading-with-paul-now

Mckenna focuses mainly on helping his clients discover what their fears are so that they can release them. By letting go of fear, we can clear our energy fields and make way for true health.

Overall, mind modalities focus on using the mind for overall healing by mentally gaining control of our energy flows.

Mind-Body Modalities

Many healing modalities that focus on the mind do so to heal the body. Even in Western medicine, many previously spiritual modalities are recommended in an effort to help heal the physical body. Practices like yoga, tai chi, and meditation are now used in less spiritual ways, washed of their true purposes as founded in Eastern practices. These superficial practices still, of course, help to calm the mind and do great things for the body – using stretching, breathing, and guided movements is certainly healthy and great for daily wellbeing. Regardless, when used in this way, these modalities are not truly spiritual because they do not penetrate deeper into our energy and soul.

What Are Soul Modalities?

Soul healing can be much more difficult to grasp than mind modalities because the concept of the soul is under dispute. Across schools of thought, the term “soul” can mean so many different things. For the sake of our topic, the soul is both within us and one with the Divine. By getting in touch with our souls, we get in touch with the Universe and with all living beings within it. Our souls hold our destinies. Trauma and barriers that exist on the level of the soul can be the most damaging and the most difficult to address.

Most people find it extremely difficult to remove all the other layers of their existence – their minds, bodies, emotions, etc. – in order to reach their souls. It can take years, even lifetimes, of a spiritual journey to fully get in touch with the soul. When we align every part of ourselves and our lives with our souls, we will experience true peace and raise our vibrations.

Because healing the soul is happening on the deepest levels of ourselves, the modalities can be much more challenging. They can take similar forms to other kinds of modalities, but they address the soul-level traumas and disturbances we are struggling with.

Energy is the Basis of All Truly Spiritual Modalities

Everything in the Universe is energy. Even physical objects are built at the smallest units on the energy and vibrations that stabilize our Universe. The atoms and molecules that create everything we see depend on energy. It’s no surprise, then, that our healing modalities must operate with this energy, working with it and opening up its flow so that any blockages and disturbances can melt away and we can realign ourselves with perfect existence. schedule-intuitive-reading-with-paul-now

A perfect example of this is Feng Shui, which is the ancient Chinese art of aligning the energy in ourselves with the energy of the Universe. Instead of placing ourselves and our objects in the environment in any way that we desire, we listen to the natural energy of nature of our Universe and arrange ourselves to fit into this natural flow.

To know if a method you are using for self-healing is a truly spiritual modality, assess whether it is helping you to ensure your energy is becoming realigned with the energy of the Universe on even the deepest levels so that you can access your higher self and enter full recovery.

Truly Spiritual Modalities to Try for Self-Healing

If you are interested in fully healing yourself from the inside out, you’ll need to commit to reaching deep into yourself to access your true self, the Divine, your soul. Many mind and body modalities can help bring you into the right place – you might have too many other traumas, pain, and disturbances affecting your body, mind, and emotions to start truly getting in touch with your soul.

Maybe you’ll need to relax your mind and body through your yoga practice before you can settle into a deep meditation, for example. Or maybe you’ve got a blocked energy flow that a practicioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine or Reiki can assist you in unblocking. Ultimately, though, you’ll need to end up using methods that align your soul’s energy with the Universe.

Truly spiritual modalities include things like deep prayer, sutras, and mantras. Prayers, such as the deeply beautiful Hindu prayers in the language of Sanskrit, literally bring you onto the wavelengths of the vibrations of the Universe. There are many mantras you can add to your practice that will help your soul heal, and you can pull already-existing ones or create your own for a fully personalized experience. Reading sutras can also guide us on our journey by helping us get in touch with ourselves and helping to make changes in our ways.

REMEMBER!

You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

Pray for others and the Universe prays for us.

LOTS OF BLESSINGS TO YOU!

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There is no “Other.” There is only you experiencing yourself.

 

 

Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards – all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE

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The Difference Between Oracle Cards and Tarot Cards

 

 

 

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The Difference Between Oracle Cards and Tarot Cards

Divination, or the use of tools in the occult arts to connect with otherworldly knowledge, is most popularly identified in the use of oracle cards and tarot cards. If you were to glance over at a table where someone is offering a reading to another with the use of a card deck, it might be very difficult for you to tell the difference between oracle and tarot cards.

While it’s true that both types of cards are used very similarly on the surface, there are actually fundamental differences to each that play a huge role in how they can affect a reading and whether your situation would call for their use.

If you are seeking guidance from a psychic that uses divination, you’ll want to know exactly what the difference is between oracle cards and tarot cards before you make a decision about your reading. Let’s dive in!

The History of Using Cards for Divination

The use of card decks to glean insights beyond the immediate reach of knowledge is not a new practice at all. In fact, it is one of the oldest forms of divination that we know about in the history of psychic practices. Tarot cards, in fact, are so old that they originate from playing cards used as early as the 1300s.

In their earliest forms, they even still kept much of the structure and imagery that we identify today as playing cards, such as with the 4 sections (clubs, spades, diamonds, and hearts).

Oh and if you love deep, healing, and predictive, you’ll LOVE The Shankara Oracle.

But how did the use of these cards transition from gambling and play to fortune-telling? Humans have this incredible talent for recognizing patterns and getting in touch with our “gut” feelings. Attaching luck and superstition to the order and times in which certain cards turned up during play was not such a huge leap! Suddenly, people were pulling purpose and meaning from each card in the deck, and the original tarot card deck was born.

Over time, people began mixing the original playing cards with mythological and religious imagery, such as from the Catholic Church and Roman legends. In the 1900s, tarot cards became popularized again by the Rider-Waite-Smith deck, setting the stage and much of the standardized imagery and meanings that are still used today across the board in tarot cards. While the Rider-Waite-Smith deck is the standard, it didn’t stop various movements throughout the 90s, especially the Hippie movement and the New Age movement, from putting new spins on the tarot deck with different imagery and interpretations.

It wasn’t until after the tarot card deck had been the standard for hundreds of years that oracle cards came about. While oracle cards are a much younger form of divination, that doesn’t make them less powerful or helpful – just different!

The Structure of Tarot Cards vs. Oracle Cards

One of the biggest differences between tarot cards and oracle cards is that tarot cards have a set structure, or are at least much more standardized than oracle cards. Most decks consist of 78 cards. There are also decks you can get, though less popular, that have less. The 78 cards are broken down into 22 Major and 56 Minor Acana cards. Much like their origin – the playing card deck – tarot decks break down their Minor Acana cards into four suits and even keeps them numbered: Swords, Wands, Pentacles, and Cups. The meanings and imagery of each card also has stayed largely unchanged and standard across decks, meaning that someone practiced in reading tarot card decks can typically pick up any deck and read it well.

Even the use of tarot cards has a standard structure. Most often, tarot card readers will use the Celtic Cross practice, which is the set way one turns over and sets down the cards they draw in the sign of a cross on the table. This means that the reader does not only rely on the specific card they pull for meaning, but also on where the card is placed within the cross.

On the other hand, oracle cards have almost no structure, standard, set meaning, or even widely-accepted use. They also typically come in smaller decks and cover a wide range of themes. Anyone anywhere can create their own oracle cards, and it is often more of a personal spiritual journey to create or find oracle cards that speak to your own needs than picking up a tarot deck. While you can find a range of styles and themes for both, tarot cards will keep the same meanings for each set card, and oracle cards will have meanings and structures unique to that set.

For example, oracle cards can come in decks of any number with any structure. They may or may not use sections, suits, and numbers. More often, they’re a deck of cards with unique imagery on each card where the creator has decided how that specific deck should be interpreted. There is also no set way to pull the cards from the deck and read them!

The loose standards for the creation and use of these cards derive from their more recent origins in the free-flowing, individual-centric feelings of the modern ages. In fact, they came into play as tarot cards went out of style for a while before the 1900s and were made popular by a French fortune-teller, “Lenormand.” Like tarot cards, oracle cards can thank the Hippie and New Age movements for increasing popularity and continued use by diviners everywhere.

The Difference in Meanings Between Tarot and Oracle Cards

There is no easy way to explain for sure how oracle cards and tarot cards differ in meaning other than the fact that tarot card readers study a very specific set of interpretations and methods while oracle card users are not stuck in a system. Even if the themes of the tarot card decks you pick up are different — such as if you own a deck themed with nature and a deck themed with pop culture characters — you’ll ultimately be following the same structure and interpretation guidelines. If you choose to use oracle cards, you’ll follow the theme of the deck you’ve chosen and not any other exterior set of rules. You’ll typically receive a guidebook that helps you interpret that specific deck or oracle cards.

When it comes to interpretation, tarot cards can also be much more serious. They address all aspects of life as well as past, present, and future, and they will reveal all kinds of things whether they are negative, neutral, or positive. Oracle cards, on the other hand, tend to lean more toward positive and uplifting interpretations.

Oracle cards will also focus much more on “big picture” concepts than tarot cards. Tarot cards are much more intensive, with more cards and set interpretations, meaning that they can be used to get very specific and detailed readings. Oracle cards, on the other hand, are much more about capturing themes, feelings, and larger ideas that can guide the user towards a more general interpretation.

Should I Use Oracle Cards or Tarot Cards?

Which type of card deck — tarot or oracle — you choose will entirely depend on your goals. If you are looking for loose guidance that helps with self-growth and stays more positive, you might enjoy oracle cards much more. They’ll also take much less practice, time, and brain-power to learn and interpret. They’re great for beginners! Tarot cards will take time to learn and practice, and you’re much better off going to someone who understands them well for a reading. You’ll also want to make sure you’re open to hearing a much more in-depth and well-rounded reading from the cards.

There’s also no shame in using both! Many people choose to use oracle cards to open a session before diving into a more detailed reading with tarot cards. Oracle cards can help set the stage and provide a loose understanding of what the reading will be about, and then tarot cards can help further interpret.

What you choose to use for guidance on your journey is entirely up to you. I’ve even created my own deck, called The Personality Cards, which you can check out here!

REMEMBER!

You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

Pray for others and the Universe prays for us.

LOTS OF BLESSINGS TO YOU!

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There is no “Other.” There is only you experiencing yourself.

 

Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards – all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE

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