Can Losing A Pet Feel Like Losing A Human?

Every deep attachment and broken love of ours will lead to suffering. The deeper the attachment or bond, the deeper and more expansive the pain. The object of our love, attachment, and suffering can be an object, an idea, a self-identity, a person, or a pet – it doesn’t matter the form, since there is no form: There is only a living entity seeking a reciprocal bond with another living entity. And while not everything has intention, every “thing” is alive.

The key is to grieve deeply and then more deeply and then even more deeply until we are exhausted from release and therefore- free. I love The Sedona Method for grief and emotional release – such a lovely and profound process. A beautiful soul named Lester Levinson invited it.

The profound question of whether losing a pet can feel like losing a human touches the very core of our capacity for love and attachment. It’s important to recognize that grief, in its essence, is a reflection of the depth of our connections, irrespective of the form of life that connection was with. 

The pain of loss is a measure of the depth of our love and commitment, highlighting an undeniable truth: love transcends the physical and material forms, embracing the essence of life itself.

Can Openers

But truly, we can love a can opener as much as we love our mates or pets. It all depends on what constructs are built within us and from which paradigm we choose to live and love. 

I had a client once who was so attached to her bikinis during her rise to model fame, that she would wear them during business meetings, unaware of how this revealed her inability to release the past, her ego, prior identity, and traumas stemming from that period of her life. 

We are all transparent like this – showing our poker hand without realizing it. We are all avoiding the process of grief around something.

We foolishly attach to cups of coffee, which, after all, are quite similar at their root.

We continue to wear old, ripped t-shirts and underpants to help us feel safe and nurtured in some way. 

We are so silly at times that we leave one lover to seek another with the exact same attributes – only to discover later that it was our blocks and egos that prevented the original relationship from flourishing.

We fail to grieve and this results in our inability to grow. 

Hearts Open

When we open our hearts to love, we embark on a journey that inevitably includes both profound joy and the potential for deep sorrow. This duality is a testament to the richness of the human experience. Grieving is not just an act of mourning but a powerful process of honoring the depth of our attachments and the significance of our loss. It’s a path towards healing, allowing us to fully acknowledge and express the breadth of our emotions.

Embracing grief, therefore, is not merely about confronting loss but about affirming life and the capacity of our hearts to love deeply. The Sedona Method, as introduced by Lester Levinson, offers a compassionate and transformative approach to navigating the complexities of grief. It encourages us to lean into our feelings of loss (allowing them), to experience them fully and without restraint, and to release them in a way that brings healing and peace.

By allowing ourselves to grieve deeply, we do more than just process sadness; we engage in a profound act of self-love and acceptance. We give ourselves permission to feel, to heal, and ultimately, to find peace in the aftermath of loss. This process, though challenging, can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and the nature of our attachments, fostering a renewed sense of connection to the world around us.

In the journey of grief, it’s vital to remember that you’re not alone. The path towards healing is both personal and universal, shared by those who have loved deeply and lost. By supporting one another with compassion and empathy, we can navigate the complexities of grief together, finding strength in our shared vulnerability.

As we move through the depths of our sorrow, we gradually uncover a path to peace and acceptance. It’s a journey marked by moments of profound sadness but also by moments of beauty and profound understanding. The depth of our grief reflects the depth of our love, and in fully embracing both, we honor the connections that have shaped us.

The process of grieving deeply and wholly is a powerful act of liberation. It frees us from the weight of unexpressed sorrow, allowing us to remember with love, to live with purpose, and to open our hearts once more to the possibility of love in all its forms. Through this journey, we come to see that in loving and losing, in grieving and healing, we are deeply connected to the web of life, forever changed but also enriched by the love we have known.

Grieving Modalities

Grieving is a deeply personal journey, one that each of us navigates in our own unique way. It’s a process that calls for both courage and compassion, inviting us to find solace and healing in the midst of our pain. There are countless paths through grief, each with its own beauty and power. From ancient practices to modern methodologies, the diversity of these approaches reflects the vastness of the human spirit and our innate capacity to heal.

Spiritual Rituals, while time-consuming, can free us of grief like nothing else. My Seven Arrows Ritual and The Changing The Book Of Life Ritual can be quite transformative. Prepping for these rituals is vital. When we finally get to perform the ritual out in nature somewhere, miraculous things can happen. 

I remember being deeply immersed, naked and eager, far off the paths and deep in the Pecos Wilderness amid a Changing The Book Of Life Ritual. Animals appeared to help me – even a bear and mountain lion. They were peaceful and presented no threat. 

Even later, in a cave as I thought about the joy of a hummingbird, one appeared out of nowhere and fluttered around my face for a while. I cried for a week.

Truly, we are magical and powerful beyond what we can sometimes imagine.

Sadhana, a term derived from Sanskrit, refers to a spiritual practice or discipline that leads to inner transformation. In the context of grief, Sadhana can take many forms, including meditation, chanting, and yoga. Kundalini Yoga is quite powerful in this respect because it’s somewhat harsh and it can crack open even the most stubborn chakras – where our most stubborn emotions often reside.

These practices offer a way to connect with the deeper aspects of ourselves, providing a sacred space for healing and introspection. By focusing on the breath, the repetition of mantra, or the alignment of the body in asana, we can begin to release the weight of our sorrow, finding peace and clarity amidst the storm of our emotions.

The Ho’oponopono is a beautiful Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. It centers around four key phrases: “I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you.” This simple yet profound method can be a powerful tool in the grieving process, allowing us to release old hurts and resentments, whether towards ourselves or others. By invoking these phrases, we open our hearts to forgiveness, paving the way for healing and renewal.

More Popular Processes include support groups and therapy, which offer spaces for individuals to share their experiences and feelings in a safe, supportive environment. Writing and journaling are also powerful tools for processing grief, providing an outlet for the expression of deep emotions and thoughts.

Some may find solace in more unconventional practices, such as art therapy, where the act of creating becomes a meditative and healing process. Others might turn to nature therapy, finding comfort and a sense of connection in the natural world. The rhythmic sound of the ocean waves, the serene beauty of a forest, or the simple act of gardening can provide a profound sense of peace and grounding.

Herbs like Motherwort have been used for centuries to open and relax the heart. This powerful herb, often referred to as the “heart herb,” is known for its ability to soothe heart palpitations and ease anxiety. It’s a gentle reminder that nature herself offers remedies to soften our pain and nurture our healing. Other herbs such as lavender, lemon balm, and chamomile can also support the grieving process, offering calming and comforting effects.

Grieving Joyfully

Grieving is a deeply personal process, but incorporating joyful or funny activities can provide a gentle reprieve and help manage the pain of loss. These types of activities can also help us release every tear we’ve stored in their name. 

Here are some ideas that might help you or someone else navigate through grief with a touch of lightness:

Create a Memory Jar: Write down funny or happy memories of the loved one (human or pet) on pieces of paper. Whenever you’re feeling down, pull out a memory to remember the good times. When you’re ready, burn the memory jar so that you can release the past. After all, it no longer exists. 

Host a Celebration of Life: Instead of a traditional somber gathering, host a celebration that focuses on the joy and happiness the person or pet brought into your life. Encourage guests to share amusing stories or cherished moments.

Watch Their Favorite Comedy Show or Movie: Laughter can be incredibly therapeutic. Watching something that made them laugh can help lighten your mood.

Plant a Tree or Garden in Their Memory: Choose plants or flowers that remind you of them. Gardening can be a healing activity, and watching the plants grow can symbolize the ongoing impact of their presence in your life.

Adopt or Volunteer with Animals: If you’re grieving a pet, spending time with animals in need can offer comfort and laughter. If you’re ready, adopting a new pet can also bring joy and companionship.

Create Art in Their Honor: Engage in a creative project like painting, sculpting, or crafting something that celebrates their life. Focus on themes or motifs that remind you of the joy and love they represent.

Write Letters to Them: Express your thoughts, feelings, and missed moments in letters. Inject humor by sharing funny daily occurrences or inside jokes. It can feel like a conversation and help process your grief.

Truly, dear friend, it’s okay to experience joy and laughter even while grieving. These moments do not diminish the depth of your love or loss but can help you heal and honor the memory of your loved one in a beautiful, uplifting way – even if it’s a can opener.

Finally

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Each journey is deeply personal, reflecting the individual’s needs, beliefs, and experiences. Whether it’s through the disciplined practice of Sadhana, the heartfelt forgiveness of Ho’oponopono, the miraculous Sedona Method, the shared stories of a support group, or the gentle embrace of Motherwort, the path to healing is as diverse as the human heart.

As you navigate your own path through grief, may you find the practices that resonate with you, offering solace, understanding, and eventually, a renewed sense of hope and peace. 

In the midst of sorrow, you are not alone. Surrounded by the love of those who have walked this path before you, supported by the Earth beneath your feet and the sky above, you are held in a divine embrace of compassion and love. In this journey, may you find your way back to a place of peace, carrying with you the precious memories of the love you have known.

Walk gently with yourself and seek to land in a beautiful, open field, emblazoned with hope, faith, and healing. This is your birthright.

You will love The Shankara Oracle as it will take you deeply within and connect you with your pure, divine Self.