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St. Patrick – The Patron Saint Of Ireland

 

When most people think about St. Patrick’s Day, they think of the color green, shamrocks, and drinking Guinness Stout (well, or the local favorite, Murphy’s); yet, few know the true story of Maewyn Succat and how he used his superpower of empathy to save the beautiful folks of early Ireland by reducing their suffering.

 

Early Life

St. Patrick was born Maewyn Succat around 450-500AD. His father, Calpornius, was a decorated Roman-British officer and a deacon at their local Catholic church. Although raised in a Catholic family, it would be years till Maewyn would understand his connection with God and lead others to deepen their own spiritual journeys. 

The earliest reports of the young St. Patrick’s faith were not recorded until his stint in slavery, believing that his imprisonment was punishment for his lack of proper catechism and belief.

At the young age of 16, Maewyn was stolen from his family’s house in Britain by a group of Irish raiders. He was smuggled into Ireland and forced into slavery for six long and painful years. 

During this time, Maewyn turned to his faith to help him cope with his daily struggles. He regularly had vivid dreams that he used to direct his focus. In his book, Confessio, Maewyn explains that he interpreted these dreams as his way of asking his higher Being, God, to guide him.

One of these dreams came to the 22-year-old slave the night of his escape. In it, he saw a boat waiting for him at the harbor. Following his vision, he indeed found a boat that granted him safe passage back to Britain. After another brief capture, Maewyn was finally reunited with his family.

For many, the story of Maewyn Succat ends when he returned home after his time in slavery. One night, Maewyn had a dream that he received a letter titled “The Voice of the Irish.” In the background of his dream, he could hear Irish denizens begging him to walk among them. Unfortunately, in the dream, Maewyn could not read the rest of the letter, but the message would shape the rest of his life. It would also become the foundation of his forever legend.

Maewyn soon traveled to France and trained in a monastery. Twelve years later, under the direction of the Pope, he would return to Ireland as a Bishop. After returning, Bishop Maewyn Succat’s goal was to spread Christian teachings and compassion to all he met. 

Bishop Succat brought gifts to Kings and lawmakers, while accepting no gifts in return. Over time, the public recognized his goodwill and compassionate nature and started calling him Patrick, Based on the Latin root for father, patr.  

 

Miracles of the Father Saint

While St. Patrick was not officially recognized as a Saint until the 1700s, there is no short list of miracles performed during his mission to Ireland. There are several reports of St. Patrick bringing the dead back to life, some of whom had been dead for a year or longer before being resurrected by the great saint.

St. Patrick is also credited for the lack of snakes in Ireland. During a 40-day fast, he is reported to have chased them into the sea after being attacked by serpents. 

Although scholars argue that the climate is too cold in the region to accommodate snakes, many believe the island was infested before St. Patrick arrived there. Some believe the story evolved over time, choosing to look at the tale as a metaphor of how the saint chased evil and blasphemy from a tainted land.

 

Modern Day Symbolism

 Shamrocks

This three-leafed national flower of Ireland is found decorating parties around the world. Traditionally, these leaves are worn on the lapel or pressed into books for preservation. St. Patrick used the flower to describe the holy trinity to those who were unaware of the Judeo-Christian belief. 

This lovely saint explained that three equal parts stem from the stalk, just how the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost stem from one’s own heart and faith. The lesson was so popular, many associate the foliage directly with the Saint’s life and mission. These days, adding a clover to anything qualifies it as a St. Patrick’s Day decoration.

 

The Color Green

In America, you might get pinched if you don’t wear green on the 17th of March, but the color green was not the official color of the patron Saint. St. Patrick was known for wearing blue robes, a color that was so popular, it became known as St. Patrick blue. 

Unfortunately, Ireland and Britain’s history is dotted with war and strife, which was seen as synonymous with the color blue. Ancient Irish flags are blue, and the original coat of arms of King Henry VIII was blue and adorned with a golden harp. 

Over time, the Irish considered blue to represent the English government and chose the color green to protest English rule. After the Irish Rebellion of 1798, green became a symbol of nationalism and the traditional St. Patrick Blue was lost to history.

 

Corned Beef, Cabbage, and Potatoes

Traditionally, St. Patrick’s Day is a religious feast. Over the years the meal has shifted to a holiday that celebrates Irish heritage and the ancient traditions of this magical homeland. Even with the change in how people celebrate this day, the culinary staples have remained the same.

Foods eaten on this holiday connect participants to Irish heritage, while also presenting access to those in need. Corned beef, cabbage, and potatoes were staples in the relatively poor country.

Before the modernization of farming, cattle was only kept in Ireland for dairy and manual labor. Beef was difficult to find and only available for the rich. The British introduced cattle farming to Ireland and popularized the dish, but the meat still struggled to make it on the table of many families. While Beef wasn’t cheap, Ireland was known for its abundance of salt.

Salt was so cheap in Ireland, grains the size of corn kernels were added to beef to keep the meat from spoiling as it matriculated down the socioeconomic ladder. This new preserved beef was named corned beef and became a major export for the country.

The use of potatoes and cabbage is a nod to the many times Ireland faced food shortages. Back then, tubers and hearth vegetables survived the cold and were often a constant on a family’s table. The limited resources at the tie led to culinary innovations like Shepherd’s Pie and other hearty dishes centered around vegetables.

Leprechauns

The tiny fairy-like beings of Celtic lore are usually found adjacent to rainbows or pots of gold, yet traditionally, Leprechauns are not affiliated with St. Patrick. 

Leprechaun Day is March 13 and celebrates these mischievous beings, who can either bring good or bad luck to those who meet them.

Though most people think of tiny bearded men in top hats, Leprechauns are historically thought to be cranky Beings who protect their own treasures, giving it to those who can catch them. 

Because Leprechauns are celebrated just four days prior to St. Patrick’s Day, the holidays have been slowly merged into one, with most ignoring the 13th outright.

Some argue that Leprechauns don’t mirror the core beliefs of St. Patrick, but, like the Saint, the Celtic fairies reward those who have faith in higher power. 

I LOVE fairies and leprechauns. It’s quite remarkable when one avails himself to you. Seek them out and surely they will appear before you!

 

St. Patrick’s Day In The United States

While the purpose of this holiday is to celebrate Irish Heritage, most of the modern practices were developed in the United States of America. During the great Potato Famine, millions of Irish migrated to metropolitan areas like New York, Chicago, and Boston. With them, these immigrants brought their own cultures and blended them with the preexisting colonial lifestyle.

The earliest parade was thought to originate in Boston, but in 2018, a study at USF discovered the first St. Patrick’s Day parade may have been celebrated in 1600 in St. Augustine, Fl. Currently, there are hundreds of St. Paddy’s parades celebrated around the globe.

Since 1962, Chicago has dyed the cities central river green for St. Patrick’s Day. Before the first ceremony, the city would annually test sewage levels by adding dye to local water. It’s rumored that a rogue group of plumbers dumped a large quantity of the dye into the river as a harmless prank, but a long-lasting tradition was born from their fun!

The massive volumes of Irish immigrants who had moved to Chicago had called for larger celebrations for the Saint. The city responded by annually dying the river to illuminate and honor Irish pride and culture.

 

The Core Beliefs of St. Patrick

Like most Masters and Gurus, St. Patrick was born with a different name. As he traveled around Ireland and shared his beliefs, people whom he healed and touched, later renamed him. 

St. Patrick selflessly helped those in need and cared not only for the physical needs of others, but he nurtured the spiritual connection he knew they lacked. Ol’ Paddy’s love may have been watered down throughout the years, but through the ceremonies, parades, shamrocks, and Saint Patrick’s Day Catholic masses, the saint’s message of love, healing, community, and religious fervor remain in tact and as potent as they were back in the day.

Calling out to St. Patrick and other saints and Light-Beings, we acknowledge our connection to all beautiful and loving Beings throughout spacetime. Invoking a saint, guru, master, or avatar helps us connect with the light and embed into our lives. 

Hail St. Patrick! With Love And Loyalty, We Invite You To Fill Our Lives With Hope And Goodness!

If you find this process helpful, you might also check out The Shankara Oracle. 

Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards – all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE

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Spiritual Bypassing And How It Can Harm You

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We all have our avoidance mechanisms. Maybe it’s a Netflix binge to avoid dealing with something uncomfortable in your life, or perhaps it’s constantly checking your phone so you don’t have to address the awkward silence with a friend.

Whether we know it or not, most of us put up roadblocks that keep us from having to really look at something uncomfortable going on in our lives and deal with it. Such avoidance mechanisms are referred to as “spiritual bypassing,” which is a term coined by psychologist and author John C. Calloway in his spiritual bypassing book, “Unitive Thinking: New Visions of Self, Community, and Society.”

In his article “Spiritual Bypassing: What It Is and Why It Matters,” Dr. Neela Samant explains that spiritual bypassing refers to “a tendency among enlightened individuals to use their spirituality as a means of evading rather than addressing problematical aspects of themselves—what they see as negative or unworthy parts of themselves—as well as challenging social issues such as oppression, injustice, and inequality.”

The following will explain what is spiritual bypassing, why you might be doing it, how it might hurt you (and others), and how you can stop doing it once and for all.

What Is Spiritual Bypassing?

Spiritual bypassing is when you use your spiritual practice or beliefs to avoid addressing issues that are uncomfortable to you. You use your spiritual or growth practice as an “out” clause to avoid addressing something you don’t want to deal with. This might be an issue related to your psychological health, some unresolved trauma, or something that challenges your identity.

What Are Examples of Spiritual Bypassing?

If you’re not sure if you’re spiritual bypassing in your own life, here are some examples:

  • Dismissing Emotions as “Low Vibration“: Trying to avoid any anger, sadness, or frustration in your life by brushing them off as negative and suppressing it. You don’t acknowledge it and process it as a natural part of growth. 
  • Overusing Positive Thinking: Turning to affirmations and forcing optimism to deny your present pain and challenges instead of facing them.
  • Escaping Through Meditation or Spiritual Practices: Using meditation, prayer, or rituals instead of dealing with the responsibilities you have in your present life. Or avoiding dealing with your trauma and personal growth through these escapes. 
  • Blaming Karma or Past Lives: Deciding suffering is all because of “bad karma” or past-life experiences instead of owning up to your actions or poor decision-making.
  • Spiritual Superiority: Judging others but walking around knowing you are much more “awakened” or “enlightened” than others.
  • Suppressing Boundaries in the Name of Compassion: Engaging with toxic relationships or behaviors and excusing it as spiritually loving and unconditionally accepting instead of setting boundaries.
  • Believing in Instant Enlightenment: Deciding that one spiritual retreat, psychedelic experience, or meditation session can heal everything but not doing any deep inner work or reflection.
  • Projecting Spiritual Teachings onto Others: Telling others to just let it go and forgive without acknowledging their pain, trauma, and lived experiences.
  • Relying Solely on Manifestation: Believing that thinking positive thoughts on their own can somehow change circumstances and outcomes without taking any practical action.
  • Escaping Accountability in Relationships: Proclaiming difficulties in relationships are only “lessons from the universe” and not taking responsibility for your actions or working to set healthy boundaries.

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Why Do People Spiritual Bypass?

People use spiritual bypassing because it’s easier than facing what’s really going on. Whenever something challenges your identity or you have some unresolved trauma that you haven’t dealt with, it can be painful and uncomfortable to confront that. It can feel like you’re being pulled into a black hole of self-doubt.

There are also issues of scarcity that can come up when you’re faced with your own struggles. You might feel like you’re not “good enough” or that there isn’t enough “success” or “perfection” to go around. In this way, confronting your issues can feel like a threat to your own sense of security and identity.

What Are the Dangers of Spiritual Bypassing?

When you use spiritual bypassing, you don’t really get to confront your issues and work through them. This means they stay stuck in your system and continue to manifest in your life as unhealthy behaviors and thought patterns.

What often happens is that you might see some initial success using your spiritual practice to avoid dealing with your issues, but then your issues catch up with you. When this happens, you may feel like you have to turn to your spiritual practice even more, which can cause spiritual bypassing to become a chronic pattern in your life.

How To Stop Spiritually Bypassing?

First, you need to be aware that you’re doing it. To do this, you can keep a journal where you write down your feelings and thoughts. You can also talk to a trusted friend about what you’re dealing with and notice what you’re turning to as an “out” clause.

When you become aware of what you’re doing, you can start to challenge the thought patterns that lead you to use your spirituality as a crutch. Start to notice what you’re telling yourself and whether it’s actually true or not. You can also try to apply the same rules to yourself that you would apply to a friend.

Confront Yourself Head-On

When we look at ourselves with honesty, we release suppressed emotions and the personalities we create that don’t really honor who we are. If we continuously paint everything pretty and purple, we will have no pathway to deconstruct our false Selves. Take a look at yourself, honestly. Admit your faults and work towards improving them. Release the aspects that do not serve you. Own your nature and life so that you can advance mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

What The Masters Say About Spiritual Bypassing

I can’t provide direct quotes from Amma or Mother Meera on spiritual bypassing, but I can offer insights that align with their teachings and spiritual wisdom from these awakened masters. Both Amma and Mother Meera are known for taking a compassionate and practical approach to their spiritual teachings:

  • Amma’s Perspective: Amma, often emphasizing the importance of selfless service and genuine compassion, might say that true spirituality is not an escape from life’s challenges but a deep engagement with them. When we use spirituality to bypass our emotions or challenges, we’re missing out on the opportunity for growth. Instead, let your spiritual practices be a means of cultivating inner strength and resilience to face life’s ups and downs with an open heart.
  • Mother Meera’s Perspective: Mother Meera, who emphasizes the transformative power of silent presence, might share that silence and stillness are powerful tools for self-discovery, but they shouldn’t become part of avoiding life’s complexities.

How to Get Out of Spiritual Bypassing?

1) Cultivate Self-Awareness: Both of these great spiritual teachers would probably advocate for cultivating self-awareness. When we can recognize how and when spiritual practices are being used to avoid difficult emotions or challenges, we can use that honest self-reflection as a crucial step in our spiritual growth.

2) Integrate Spiritual Practices: Amma and Mother Meera may also suggest integrating spiritual practices into our daily life in a more holistic way. We should avoid compartmentalizing our spirituality as an escape mechanism and instead make it part of how we deal with life’s challenges from a place of compassion. 

3) Embrace Shadow Work: Shadow work explores how we integrate the parts of ourselves that we’ve pushed away and into the shadows. Both Amma and Mother Meera might encourage us to practice shadow work on our spiritual journey to acknowledge the aspects we were trying to avoid.

4) Seek Genuine Connection: Spiritual bypassing can sometimes stir from a place of yearning to transcend human experiences. Amma and Mother Meera would probably focus on the idea of genuine connection with ourselves and others as a grounding foundation for spiritual growth.

5) Practice Compassion: Compassion is a theme in many spiritual practices, but especially in the teachings of Amma and Mother Meera. They would likely tell us to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections with love and understanding as an integral part of our spiritual journey. 

In essence, Amma and Mother Meera would likely emphasize that authentic spirituality involves facing life’s challenges with courage, compassion, and a genuine willingness to grow. 

Use Your Spirituality for Good

The point of spirituality is to help you be the best version of yourself you can be. It’s not there to be a crutch to get you out of dealing with things that challenge your identity. The more you confront your issues with spiritual bypassing, the more you’ll be able to use your spirituality for good.

You’ll also be a better friend to those who are dealing with their own issues by not using your spirituality as an “out” clause. There will always be challenges in life, and they are what make life exciting and meaningful.

By confronting your issues and using your spirituality to support yourself, you’ll be a happier, healthier, and more empowered person.

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Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “The Personality Cards,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards—all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE.

 

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The Art of Positivity in the Face of Adversity: Insights from The Vedas, Buddhism, and Hinduism

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We might never know why someone is attacking us. They might be deeply traumatized or they might have a sprinkle of evil within them.

The reason you might be experiencing adversity or attacks is most likely due to karma from a prior life. It might also be a divine intervention to inspire you to unearth a handful of feelings or vibrations that trapped within your core. Sometimes a provoking event can truly and fully free us. You might also have secret intentions or attitudes that include a form of Self-hatred or violence, which can attract similar attributes in our oppressors and challengers. 

We attract what will uplevel us in all circumstances – but only if we yield to the nature of the event and choose to heal what is within us and rise above it all.

There is no exception. Regardless of the infraction, we always have the option to choose at least a sprinkle of gratitude. Doing so, avails us to our inner master and wisdom, opens our hearts,releases stifled emotions, and improves the states of our hearts and minds.

In the tapestry of life, challenges and adversities are inevitable threads. The ancient wisdom of the Vedas, Buddhism, and Hinduism offers profound insights on how to stay proactive, even positive in the face of attacks or oppression.

Drawing on the teachings of enlightened masters, these rich traditions guide us toward resilience, love, and encouragement even in the darkest moments.

Cultivating Inner Strength through The Vedas

The Vedas, the ancient scriptures of India, teach us that adversity is an inherent part of the human journey. Yet, they also provide a roadmap for maintaining positivity in the face of attacks. The Bhagavad Gita, a revered text within the Vedas, imparts wisdom on navigating challenges with grace.

Sage Yajnavalkya reminds us, “When you are insulted, you should remain silent; when praised, you should be equally silent.”

This ancient teaching encourages us to cultivate inner strength by not letting external circumstances dictate our inner state. The Vedas invite us to look beyond the surface of attacks and oppression, understanding that our true essence remains untouched by external forces.

Buddhism’s Noble Path to Resilience

Buddhism, rooted in the teachings of Siddhartha Gautama, the Buddha, offers a transformative perspective on responding to adversity.

The Four Noble Truths

The Four Noble Truths, foundational to Buddhist philosophy, acknowledge the existence of suffering but also provide a path toward liberation from it. By embracing the truth of suffering without succumbing to negativity, we can find the strength to endure attacks.

These ancient and penetrative truths are a foundational concept in Buddhism, setting forth the essential principles that form the framework of the Buddha’s teachings. These truths encapsulate the nature of human suffering and the path to liberation. Here are the Four Noble Truths:

Dukkha (Suffering): The first noble truth acknowledges the inherent nature of suffering (dukkha) in human existence. Dukkha encompasses not only overt pain but also the more subtle forms of dissatisfaction, unease, and impermanence that are integral to life. It serves as a recognition that suffering is an intrinsic part of the human condition.

Samudaya (Cause of Suffering): The second noble truth identifies the cause of suffering, known as samudaya. This cause is often attributed to craving or attachment (tanha). The insatiable desire for pleasure, possessions, and the continuation of existence contributes to the perpetuation of suffering. Recognizing and understanding the origins of suffering are crucial steps on the path to liberation.

Nirodha (Cessation of Suffering): The third noble truth introduces the concept of nirodha, which signifies the cessation or end of suffering. Liberation from suffering is attainable by eliminating the root cause, namely craving or attachment. Achieving a state of mental tranquility, known as Nirvana, is the ultimate goal. It involves breaking free from the cycle of birth, death, and rebirth (samsara) and attaining a state of complete liberation.

Magga (Path to the Cessation of Suffering): The fourth noble truth outlines the path leading to the cessation of suffering, known as the Eightfold Path (Magga). The Eightfold Path consists of ethical and mental guidelines that practitioners follow to cultivate wisdom, ethical conduct, and mental discipline.

The path comprises Right Understanding, Right Intention, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness, and Right Concentration. Following the Eightfold Path enables individuals to overcome craving, attain insight, and eventually achieve liberation from suffering.

If you find this process helpful, you might also check out The Shankara Oracle. You might also love The Sedona Method, created by Lester Levensen. It can be quite healing and helpful.

The Four Noble Truths provide a comprehensive framework for understanding the nature of suffering, its origins, the possibility of liberation, and the path to achieving it. This foundational teaching forms the basis of Buddhist philosophy and serves as a guide for practitioners seeking to transcend the cycle of suffering and attain enlightenment.

Thich Nhat Hanh, a contemporary Buddhist monk, offers guidance on embracing suffering with mindfulness:

“The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.”

This teaching encourages us to remain positive even amid challenges, finding moments of joy and resilience despite external pressures.

Hinduism’s Call to Detachment and Love

In Hinduism, the concept of detachment from the fruits of one’s actions, as outlined in the Bhagavad Gita, offers a powerful tool for maintaining positivity under attack. Lord Krishna advises Arjuna, “You have a right to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions.”

This teaching encourages us to focus on our efforts without being overly attached to the outcomes. By doing so, we can weather attacks with a positive spirit, understanding that our actions are expressions of our inner values, regardless of external responses.

Enlightened Masters’ Wisdom

Enlightened masters from these traditions provide profound insights into staying positive under attack. Swami Vivekananda, a key figure in Vedanta philosophy, speaks of the power of resilience:

“Arise, awake, and stop not until the goal is reached.”

His words inspire us to persevere with unwavering positivity, recognizing that challenges are but stepping stones on our journey.

From the Buddhist tradition, the Dalai Lama emphasizes compassion as a response to hostility:

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”

This teaching underscores the transformative power of love in the face of adversity.

Swami Sivananda, a revered Hindu spiritual teacher, offers guidance on responding to oppression:

“Do not be ruled by three D’s – Deha (body), Dhan (wealth), and Dampatya (family). Have control over the Indriyas (senses).”

This advice encourages us to rise above material attachments and societal expectations, finding strength within ourselves.

Practical Steps Toward Positivity

Meditation – Meditation takes you deep within the Self where no external influence can disturb you, namely in the face of attacks. Allow yourself a moment of pause and meditation before reacting, giving space for a deeper awareness of yourself and your triggers, while also inspire a thoughtful and positive response.

Cultivate Empathy – Respond to oppression with empathy and compassion. As the Amma suggests, when we grow empathy and compassion, we exercise our divine nature.

Mata Amritanandamayi, affectionately known as Amma or the Hugging Saint, often shares profound insights on empathy and compassion. While exact quotes may vary, her teachings consistently emphasize the importance of cultivating compassion and understanding for others. Here’s a sentiment aligned with her teachings:

“Compassion is the essence of true wealth. It means having an understanding heart that embraces all of creation.”

~ Amma

This quote encapsulates Amma’s emphasis on compassion as a transformative force that goes beyond individual or material wealth. It conveys the idea that true richness lies in the capacity to understand, embrace, and extend compassion to all beings.

Amma’s teachings inspire people to embody empathy and compassion in their daily lives, fostering a more compassionate and interconnected world.

Focus on Virtue – When faced with attacks, draw strength from your inner values. Remember that your actions are a reflection of your character, and staying true to your principles can bring a sense of purpose and positivity.

Self-Inquiry – Looking deep within and seeking answers to the tougher questions can free you over time. If you can release deep-seated emotions and get into addressing the roots of your traumas, you will improve your Self-understanding and greatly improve your perspective and life.

Summary

In the symphony of life, maintaining positivity in the face of attacks or oppression is an art that draws inspiration from the ancient wisdom of Vedas, Buddhism, and Hinduism.

As we navigate the complexities of existence, enlightened masters guide us toward resilience, love, and encouragement.

By embracing these teachings, we not only find strength within ourselves but also contribute to a more compassionate and positive world. Remember, even in the stormiest moments, the light of positivity can guide us to calmer shores.

 

If you find this process helpful, you might also check out The Shankara Oracle. You might also love The Sedona Method, created by Lester Levensen. It can be quite healing and helpful.

 

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Healing Your Liver, Spleen, Thyroid, Adrenals

The liver and spleen are two of the most important organs in your body. They carry out a variety of tasks, including making iron, managing fat, eliminating toxins, activating enzymes, and making as well as excreting bile, among others.

Similar to how it impacts body temperature and heartbeat, the thyroid also controls the body’s metabolism, or how energy is consumed by tissues.

However, a large number of people are unaware that an underactive thyroid and adrenal functions may be to blame for their exhaustion, weight gain, and depression.

Your liver and spleen, among other organs, may work better thanks to herbal medicines. The thyroid and adrenal glands may benefit from the assistance provided by these herbs. The article bellow will discuss a few of these useful herbs.

 

HERBS FOR LIVER

Milk Thistle

One of the most widely used herbs for the treatment of liver cirrhosis is milk thistle. Though originally from the Mediterranean area, milk thistle is now found all over the world. When crushed, the leaves of the milk thistle plant release a milky liquid.

The active component of milk thistle is silymarin, which protects your liver and treats illnesses including cirrhosis, hepatitis, and fatty liver. Silymarin, a flavonoid mixture, aids in the regeneration of liver cells affected by alcohol and other toxins.

Turmeric Root

One of the most potent Ayurvedic herbs is turmeric root (Curcuma longa), which has been used for generations in India. Turmeric is well regarded for its enormous anti-inflammatory properties and for curing and preventing a wide range of inflammation-based disorders.

Turmeric is also hepatoprotective, preventing damage to liver cells (hepatocytes) by aiding in the detoxification of reactive species when they change from lipid to water soluble to water soluble. By donating itself to balance out the free radical species that cause cellular damage, hasten illness, and promote liver ageing, this contributes to the powerful antioxidant benefits of turmeric root.

Dandelion

In Western herbalism, dandelion root (Taraxacum officinalis) is a key herb for detoxification and healthy liver function. It is among the greatest herbs for repairing the liver.

A cholagogue, hepatoprotective tonic, and gentle phase 1 liver detoxifier, dandelion root is a bitter herb. Additionally, it acts as a mild diuretic and increases bile secretion and gall bladder constriction.

Artichoke Leaf

Artichoke leaf, which is frequently consumed in North America, Europe, and the Mediterranean, is increasingly recognised as a crucial liver support supplement. It contains cynarin, which has been shown to stimulate the liver’s bile production. This improves the effectiveness of the body’s detoxification processes, assisting various organs in getting rid of dangerous pollutants like alcohol and other substances.

Artichoke leaf also includes the vital flavonoid silymarin, just as milk thistle. Silymarin is most well-known for its capacity to shield the liver. By assisting those at risk of coronary heart disease to maintain appropriate cholesterol levels, artichoke leaves also improve general health and wellbeing.

 

HERBS FOR SPLEEN

Dandelion Root

One of the best supplements for enhancing the health and function of your spleen is dandelion root, which is used in dietary supplements. According to Mitchell, dandelion root has traditionally been utilised as an alternative medicine or therapeutic ingredient to cure enlargements of the spleen and liver. According to “Therapeutic Herb Manual” author and master herbalist Ed Smith, dandelion root also works as a diuretic and kidney cleaner to enhance hunger and working of digestive system.

Eu Yan Sang

The traditional folk treatment Si Shen Herbal Soup has been improved with Eu Yan Sang’s Healthy Digest, which regulates the stomach and spleen. Young and old can both enjoy it. To support your spleen and enhance digestion generally, it may be wise to add wholegrain meals, red dates, Chinese yam, and lotus seeds into your regular diet.

An Ji Le pills by Eu Yan Sang are traditionally used to treat the symptoms of headache, moderate nausea, mild vomiting, mild diarrhoea, and indigestion. The constituent herbs work to promote spleen function and eliminate bodily moisture. It is also appropriate for kids under the age of 10.

Astragalus

Astragalus root is regarded as a warming, slightly sweet tonic plant. It has an energy that is rising. Astragalus is specifically a Spleen Qi Tonic and a Lung Qi Tonic in Traditional Chinese Medicine. As a result, it is used in the treatment of lung and spleen Qi deficiency.

According to TCM, the Spleen is in charge of converting food and drink into Qi and Blood. Check for spleen dysfunction first if someone is deficient in Qi or energy. The energy that maintains our entire body, Zhen Qi, is created after the Spleen converts food and liquids into Qi. This Qi then ascends to the Lungs where it combines with Lung Qi.

Fatigue and sluggishness, loose stools or diarrhoea, poor appetite, phlegm and dampness, weak arms and legs, and prolapsed organs are all signs that the spleen is short in qi (such as haemorrhoids). Astragalus root is a Spleen Qi tonic that boosts energy, improves digestion, and can raise prolapsed organs. It also raises appetite.

 

HERBS FOR THYROID

Licorice

One of the oldest herbal treatments in use today, licorice is a native of Western Asia and Southern Europe. By lowering cortisol levels in the body and shielding the thyroid gland from oxidative damage, it enhances thyroid function.

Licorice contains strong antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, and antioxidant properties, according to research-based information. This can ease many thyroid problem symptoms and make your life easier.

Black Cumin

Another herb used in old Algerian medicine to cure thyroid issues is black cumin, or Nigella sativa. It has biological elements and phytochemicals that assist a number of bodily processes, such as; Alkaloids, Phenolics, Coumarins and Flavonoids.

Black cumin can enhance thyroid function generally as well as for patients with this particular problem, according to a 2016 study examined the impact black cumin has on Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, a disease that eventually destroys the thyroid.

Lemon Balm

This plant has a wide range of traditional applications, including as supporting sound sleep, reducing tension and anxiety, and treating indigestion. Additionally, studies have indicated that it may be advantageous for those who have hyperthyroidism.

According to one study, the extract protects Grave’s disease patients’ thyroid receptors from the components that cause the thyroid to become overactive. Lemon balm is widely employed as an antiviral medication, which lightens the burden on your liver. Thyroid problems and viral infections frequently co-occur.

 

HEALING ADRENAL FUNCTION

Ashwagandha

Ashwagandha, another adaptogenic plant, balances our brain’s central nervous system by influencing our cortisol levels. It is a common herb used to maintain normal healthy thyroid function, emotional balance, healthy energy levels, and normal immune function. It is one of the more well-known adaptogens for ensuring healthy adrenal gland activity.

The name Ashwagandha literally translates to “horse smell,” as it is believed to give you the vigour and stamina of a horse. Since ashwagandha belongs to the nightshade family, it is advised to choose a substitute herb to strengthen your adrenals if you have a known or suspected nightshade allergy. Ashwagandha has warming qualities and is excellent for people who get chilly easily or are more easily exhausted.

Licorice Root

In Europe and Asia, licorice is produced. A highly appreciated Chinese medication is licorice. It is present in practically all of the Chinese herbal formulae with patents. The most popular herb for supporting the adrenals is licorice. It is a moderate tonic and anti-stress herb that is believed to boost vitality, energy, and endurance.

Licorice has been used to help alleviate the symptoms of hypoglycemia, a frequent side effect of impaired adrenal function, and it is known to naturally boost cortisol levels. Aldosterone production is boosted, which is good because advanced adrenal fatigue typically lacks this hormone. Licorice can calm upset stomachs, increase blood flow through the heart and arteries, and boost the immune system’s production of molecules similar to interferon.

Nettle Leaf

Although nettle leaf is not generally thought of as an adaptogenic plant, it can be very effective in treating adrenal fatigue. Vitamins A, C, and K, as well as magnesium, iron, calcium, and potassium are all abundant in nettles. In light of this, nettle is a herb that is highly nutritious for the entire body and, more particularly, an adrenal tonic.

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Paul Wagner is an Intuitive Life & Business Coach, clairvoyant reader, and a five-time EMMY Award-winning writer. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships. Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

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What Does It Mean When We Say “No Excuses”?

 

You are an unlimited Being, born from myriad miracles. Nothing is stopping you from growing, healing, and moving beyond your current circumstances and conditions. There’s karma to contend with, but prayer and your focus on an enlightened master or God, you can burn through karma. There will be pain, but the pain is transforming you.

Throughout our lives, we see many people succeed and many who fail. We might worship those who reach the tops of mountains, and we might dismiss those who often suffer defeat. As we wander the planet pursuing our passions and interests, we might secretly worship one of the world’s “winners” in our mind’s eye, hoping that one day we’ll achieve a status equal to theirs. In our focus on these individuals, we forget that our karma is unique.

Our paths are unique. And as such, we must forge unique trajectories to shift, transform, or transcend. 

Amid our own victories and failures, we learn what works and what doesn’t. We either improve, pivot, or die. If we’re honest with ourselves, we might admit that we rarely learn from our mistakes. Unwilling to dissolve our stubbornness and addiction to outdated behaviors and beliefs, we fail to free ourselves from bad habits, ill-conceived pursuits, and a variety of misconceptions. It all comes down to our excuses.

The idea of “no excuses” sounds simple, but we complicate it due to our self-perceptions and exhaustion. After all, life on Earth has become quite intense and complex these days. But when it comes down to it, you either want to grow and heal and improve your conditions, or you do not.

You might feel, “well, this pain, this situation, this is the way it is,” but we can always improve our circumstances, even if it’s only one small step at a time.

If you want to truly change and advance your position in the world, it probably won’t be easy. It will most likely require self-sacrifice and hard work. It will also require you to move beyond your temporary self-identities, attitudes, false desires, mental perseverations, and ego, and into a state of humility, honesty, and wonder.

If you’re too enthused with your identity and ego, or if you’ve become accustomed to playing the victim, you’ll continue to defend the notion that excuses are real – but they are not.

An excuse is a statement that we use to justify our inability to find pathways to improved conditions. It’s often contrived out of thin air and presented within ourselves in such a way that it brings us shame, thereby lowering our vibrations.

When we have 4 or 5 excuses, we believe we have a legal, defensible case against ourselves and our potential. We then use our minds to take ourselves to spiritual court. Even with the best intentions and most innovative slights of hand, we’ll lose this battle every time. We are too smart for our own good.

So, there we sit, stuck in a cesspool of our excuses.

Here are a few reasons why your excuses are merely contrived fantasies that you’re using to defeat yourself and defend laziness:

  1. You have skin, bones, a brain, a heart, and passion. With these elements, you can accomplish nearly anything. What most often happens is that we get distracted and depressed, and we refuse to shift our behaviors toward a more enlightening feeling or position. When you add our addictions to social media to the mix, you have a stew that can only breed mediocrity and complaints.
  2. Your ideas and passions are not that complicated. It’s not like your goal is to fly to a distant nebula on a magical, nuclear, cocktail napkin. Your desires are most likely based in reality, which gives you a fighting chance at bringing them to life.
  3. You have already tried sitting around, complaining, and building a case against yourself.
  4. You already know which of the people in your life you no longer value. You’ve been keeping them around so you can feel validated. It’s within this codependent model that we grow mental and emotional infections that can prevent us from ever-evolving.
  5. You have made mistakes and you have created some unique, winning scenarios. Even with a predominance of failures, you still have enough data to thrust you forward with confidence.
  6. You’re sick of your attitude, so why not try something else?

Whether you believe in reincarnation or not, this life of yours is happening. It’s ON. It’s moving forward with or without you.

Why not admit you’re blocked, and choose to change your daily routine so you can advance your life to the next level?

Exercise and mediate at 6am. Pray 3X a day so that you continually raise your vibration. Pray for others because when we do this, The Universe prays for us. Use The Sedona Method to release emotions. Find ways to selflessly serve others. Do yoga 4X a week. Eat more healthfully. You got this.

Change your beliefs and you change your life. Go get ’em!

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Are You In A Back–Burner Relationship? 6 Warning Signs Of Cushioning and Back-Burnering

Last updated: June 25, 2025

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Am I Being Cushioned or Back-Burnered In My Relationship?

Are you in a back-burner relationship? The first days of a relationship can be intoxicating – you’re falling in love, getting to know your new partner, and floating on the proverbial cloud. Everything is amazing, and then little by little, you may start to notice that the relationship you were so happy in has changed. Your partner is distant and secretive, and you feel like you can’t connect with them. 

You try everything! You put on sexy underwear, you make pot roast, you do your wild dance, and damnit – it still feels like he’s on Relationship Vacation.

If this sounds familiar, you may be in a back-burner relationship  – feeling a bit like you’re babysitting rather than being fully loved and appreciated. 

If you want to be a relationship warrior – creating EXACTLY what thrills and heals you – read on to learn about cushioning and back-burnering. Within minutes, you’ll discover the warning signs – if this is happening in your relationship.

What Is Considered Cushioning in Dating & Relationships?

Never heard of cushioning? A cushioning relationship is when your partner is a bit sneaky – and has someone set up as a back-up plan in case your relationship fails. Essentially, they’re fostering a semi-romantic relationship with another person that they can transition into a full-out dating relationship if things go south with you. 

The cushion is their Self-Esteemer – a selfish energy vault to engage upon any conflict – so they NEVER feel fully hurt or devastated. This is a bypass for them, and a redirect of value and energy – all of which should be directed towards YOU – and nobody else.

Cushioning happens when a relationship is on the rocks and someone is afraid of being alone. They might be unable to commit or be fully honest with themselves – and you. This can happen when your partner craves more attention than one person can reasonably give them. And they might cushion as an addiction. This shows that your partner isn’t committed to you or your relationship – and is making backup plans for when things are challenging or on the verge of falling apart.

Truth be told, the moment they choose cushioning over you, things begin tumbling toward heartbreak.

What Is Back-Burnering?

While back-burnering can look similar to cushioning on the surface, it differs from cushioning in a few ways. When you’re on the back burner with someone, you aren’t their main priority in the relationship. And maybe they never even promised that to you – or maybe you prefer this! 

It might also be that they are not pursuing a relationship with someone else, but they’re not giving you their all, either. You might be doing the same thing – or you may have started or provoked this whole paradigm due to your own fears and limits. Only you know the truth here.

When you’re being back-burnered, you may find that your partner doesn’t seem to have time for you or interest in being with you. You may feel like a second choice, and you might find that you don’t get to spend very much time with them. You might also be in denial about what you’re actually giving the other person – are you giving them your all?

Sometimes, being in a back-burner relationship can feel even lonelier than just being single. This is because your heart is open – and finally feeling something – bringing to the surface parts of you that you’ve been neglecting for a long time.

Relationship Truth Bombs Before You Settle – or Stay

Before we dive into signs and red flags, here’s the real medicine: There is no “other.” There is no “they.” Every relationship dynamic – the flakiness, the ghosting, the breadcrumbing – is a mirror of your inner state, of your soul calling to itself through an external experience. That’s right – this is about YOU.

If this is happening in your relationship, this isn’t the time for blame – it’s time for self-ownership and liberation. If you’re attracting people who can’t choose you, ask: Where am I still not choosing myself? What within me is attracting this?

And how can I lead the way to a super awesome, super healthy, super wonderful relationship with this person – a projection of myself?

We don’t land in cushioning or back-burner relationships by accident. We match them. On some level, part of us is afraid to be fully seen, fully open, fully worthy of a real f*cking YES. We hide, we skip, we pretend – and we avoid ourselves. 

Why? We might be lazy and want it all handed out on a silver platter. Part of us might even prefer the chaos – because it lets us avoid our deepest work – and it gives us something that appears to be obviously not our fault – or not our responsibility. You’re better – you’re BIGGER than that.

This doesn’t excuse their behavior  – it just puts your healing back in your hands. And that’s where your freedom lives.

So before you analyze the people in your life to death, stop and ask:

    • Am I available for real intimacy?
    • Am I projecting old pain onto this person?
    • Am I still addicted to being almost-loved, because fully-loved feels terrifying?
    • Am I owning and healing my full self all the time? 

Healing begins when we stop outsourcing our power to someone else’s behavior  – when we stop allowing someone else to have full agency over our happiness – and when we start anchoring ourselves into our own sovereignty. 

The moment you fully own your frequency – the moment you stop playing small, stop settling, stop blaming – the pattern collapses. The Universe reroutes – and expands within you and within your sphere. Your soul IMMEDIATELY gets loud. And the game changes.

Now let’s look at the signs you might be back-burnered or cushioned – so you can call it what it is, clean it up, and rise the hell out of it. You came here to burn through bullshit and rise into sovereign, soul-lit connection. So let’s get to it!

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6 Signs That Indicate You’re Being Back-Burnered Or Cushioned

Does something feel off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Maybe your partner is distant, inconsistent, or just not as engaged as they used to be. Maybe you’re numb from childhood trauma or a prior relationship debacle and you can’t fully access your full self! 

Sometimes these things can shift when we own our issues and start working on them. Other times, it can certainly be the other person and how they view the relationship.

If you’re starting to wonder whether you’re a priority or just an option in this unfulfilling relationship, here are some red flags that you’re being cushioned or back-burnered.

Red Flags Pointing To Cushioning Or Back-Burnering

1) They’re Secretive About Phone Activity

One of the first things you may notice when you’re being cushioned or back-burnered is that your partner is suddenly glued to their phone. They don’t go anywhere without it, and they always seem to be texting, chatting, or scrolling social media. This may even start to interfere in your relationship, since you can’t seem to get their attention. This is an emotional sign of being in a back-burner relationship.

Worst of all, your partner may start refusing to let you see anything on their phone. Of course, everyone has a right to their privacy, but your partner shouldn’t be making active efforts to hide their phone activity from you. If they won’t let you see what they’re texting or looking at, it could mean they’re chatting up someone else.

Meanwhile, it is also possible your paranoia is stemming from your own lack of honesty – or inability to trust them born from your own traumas – that you’ve yet to own and heal. 

2) If They’re Hot And Cold

One of the biggest red flags in a relationship is your partner switching between being affectionate and being aloof. Everyone has bad days, and your partner may have times when they feel a little more distant or hard to read. But swinging wildly between hot and cold can show you that your partner isn’t sure if they want to be in your relationship.

Remember – you have to start with yourself. Did you initiate this pattern? Are you certain you’re owning your challenges and allowing your emotions to rise, express, and dissolve? 

When we fully own our traumas, we energetically inspire others to do the same. This can clear myriad troubling patterns in our relationships. When we’re at our best, the relationship’s frequency begins to rise. This can awaken our partners to look within and adjust themselves – thereby improving the relationship.

Check into these things, too: 

Does your partner refuse to talk to you for days on end and then call you and act like nothing is wrong? 

Do they act like they want you one night and then barely look your way for the next week? 

These sorts of extreme fluctuations could be a sign that they’re pursuing other options on the side and only doing what they have to in order to keep you going. And again, it might be that you’ve not yet fully owned your part in these challenges.

3) When Your Partner Isn’t Making Solid Plans With You

The surest way to tell what someone’s priorities are is to look at where they spend their time. In a healthy relationship, you and your partner should be spending time together on a regular basis. Even if you don’t see each other every day, you should be able to count on them to show up for plans because they value that time with you.

When your partner is cushioning you or putting you on the back burner, they may start refusing to make solid plans. The truth is that by the time those plans come around, they don’t know if they’ll have a better offer from someone else. If your partner acts like spending time with you is an option that they can’t commit to, it may be a sign that something is wrong.

4) Is Your Partner Standing You Up? Prime Example Of Back-Burnering Or Cushioning

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Even worse than refusing to make solid plans is a partner who straight-up stands you up. You may have plans for them to call, for you to have a date night, or for you to meet up. But at the last minute, they have to work, a family member needs something, a friend called, or they’re just too tired.

As with many of these warning signs, these things can happen every now and again in a relationship. It’s when a pattern starts developing that you should be worried. Getting stood up for a phone call once is one thing; missing three plans with you in a month or standing you up for an important event shows that they have somewhere else they’d rather be.


5) If Your Partner Is Not Responsive, They’re Back-Burnering You Or Cushioning

When you first got into this relationship, you and your partner probably talked for hours on end and texted every day. They answered your questions, reacted to your stories, and showed you that they cared. But now, you may have the sense that your partner isn’t listening or that they’ve just plain checked out.

Most of the time, your partner should engage with you, respond to your texts and calls, and make you feel heard. It takes less than thirty seconds to send a text message, and no one is so busy that they can’t manage an “I’m busy, but I’ll call you later” message. If your partner isn’t responding to you, it may show you that they’re busy talking to someone else.

6) Major Red Flag Of Both Cushioning & Back-Burnering Is A Sudden Slow Down In Your Sex Life

Of course, one of the biggest signs of trouble in a relationship is a significant change in your sex life. It’s normal for your sex life to slow down a little as you move out of the honeymoon phase of your relationship. In fact, some studies show that most Americans in happy relationships have sex about once a week.

But while a slight slowdown is normal, a full stop is something to be concerned about. If your partner used to be excited about getting down with you and now they seem indifferent, it’s a sure sign that there’s some sort of problem. They might be experiencing a physical problem that needs to be addressed, they might be working through a personal crisis, or they might be turning their attention elsewhere.

The Impact of Back-Burner Relationships on Self-Esteem 

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Back-burner relationships may seem subtle on the surface, but their emotional toll can be profound and often insidious. When someone keeps you simmering on low heat – not fully committing, yet not letting go – it creates a chronic state of emotional ambiguity that eats away at your self-esteem. You begin to internalize their lack of effort as a reflection of your own worth. The silence between texts, the canceled plans, the inconsistent affection – all begin to whisper a lie to your heart: “You’re not enough.”

Over time, this leads to a corrosive kind of self-doubt. You start wondering what you’re doing wrong, even when deep down, your intuitive guidance tells you that it’s not about your value – it’s about their lack of clarity and integrity. 

The back-burner dynamic makes you feel disposable, like a placeholder in someone else’s timeline – and that can bleed into your sense of identity, clouding your confidence, and distorting your understanding of love and connection. In essence, a back-burner relationship isn’t just a poor romantic setup – it’s a spiritual siphon that depletes your inner light, unless you recognize it, reclaim your power, and re-center yourself in truth.

How to Confront a Partner About Cushioning Behavior

If you suspect you’re being cushioned – meaning your partner’s got a soft, sneaky backup to soothe their ego – it’s time to speak up from clarity, not chaos. Start by grounding yourself. No need to lash out or beg. Just speak what’s real: “I feel like there’s a part of you that’s not fully here, and it hurts.” Be specific but loving. 

Give them a chance to tell the truth – and don’t override your intuition just to keep the peace. If they deflect, gaslight, or act like you’re imagining things – believe their energy more than their words. You’re not here to babysit someone’s ego while they flirt with exit plans. You’re here to be cherished. 

Speak your truth, then watch what they do. That tells you everything.

Cushioning vs. Micro-Cheating – What’s the Difference?

Cushioning is when someone keeps a “just-in-case” person close – like an emotional airbag in case things crash with you. It’s a soft betrayal wrapped in charm. Micro-cheating is sneakier – tiny acts of disloyalty that feel innocent but erode trust: flirty DMs, secret follows, lingering messages that cross energetic lines.

Cushioning is about plans – prepping for emotional escape. Micro-cheating is about habits – small leaks in integrity that drain intimacy. Both hurt. Both tell you your partner’s not fully in. And both are calls to come back to your worth – and decide what kind of relationship you truly want to live in.

Get Out of Back-Burner Relationships

Back-burner relationships can be lonely, miserable, and deeply painful. You deserve to be with a partner who is excited about being with you, who is committed to continuing to grow your relationship, and who makes you a priority in their life. If they start checking out and you have a bad feeling, trust that intuitive guidance and consider moving on to a better relationship.

If you’re feeling sidelined, dismissed, or like a low-priority option – you’re not in a relationship, you’re in emotional limbo. Cushioning and back-burner dynamics are quiet betrayals that chip away at your spirit. You deserve a partner who’s all in – present, turned on by your light, and building something real with you.

If your gut says something’s off, trust it. Your intuition is your higher self whispering: “This isn’t love – this is survival.” Walk away with grace, not drama. Choose you. Choose peace. Choose a connection where you don’t have to question your worth every damn day.

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Steps to End a Back-Burner Relationship Respectfully

Ending a back-burner situation doesn’t mean you have to blow it all up in fire and fury. You can walk out with dignity – clear, centered, and done. First, name it for what it is: “This connection doesn’t feel mutual anymore. I’m not available to be an afterthought.” Keep it simple. No need to unpack their dysfunction or fix their wounding. That’s not your job. 

Let your intuitive guidance lead – not your fear of hurting them or being alone. Set the boundary, make the clean break, and release with compassion. You’re allowed to leave quietly and still honor your power. This is your soul saying: Thank you, but I choose more.

If you’d like to learn more about cushioning and back-burner relationships, check out the rest of my site at PaulWagner.com – and it might be time for a spiritual guide in your life.

Ready to Choose More In Your Relationship?

You don’t have to settle for half-hearted love, breadcrumb affection, or spiritual laziness masked as “almost.” If you’re in a back-burner or cushioning relationship, it’s not your fault – but it is your moment to choose something better. You were born to experience wild, soul-deep connection – not sit around hoping someone wakes up and sees your light. If you’re ready to reclaim your worth and rise into a relationship that feeds your spirit, I’ve got you.

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Your heart deserves devotion – not delay. Let’s begin.

REMEMBER!

You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

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Frequently Asked Questions On Cushioning & Back Burner Relationships

To help you understand at a glance, here’s soul-level clarity you’ve been craving:

  1. What is a back-burner relationship?
    It’s when you’re not the main dish – you’re the emotional snack your partner keeps on low heat. They’re not showing up fully, not choosing you boldly, and you’re stuck in limbo – half-seen, half-loved, fully exhausted.

  1. What does cushioning mean in dating?
    Cushioning is your partner emotionally lining up their next hookup while still sharing your bed. It’s the “just-in-case” flirt they text when things feel hard with you. They’re not loyal – they’re prepping for their soft landing while you hold the weight.

  1. What are the signs of being cushioned or back-burnered?
    They’re glued to their phone, ghost your plans, act hot one day and ice-cold the next. You feel like a maybe instead of a fuck yes. Your sex life is stale, and your intuition is screaming, “Something’s wrong!” And guess what? It is.

  1. Why do people back-burner and cushion?
    Because they’re terrified of being alone, addicted to attention, or too emotionally limp to choose real intimacy. Instead of owning their fears, they scatter their energy – using you as an anchor while chasing spark elsewhere.

  1. What should I do if this is happening to me?
    Stop making excuses for them. Stop dimming your light to stay in their maybe. Your soul already knows the truth. Speak it. Leave with power. You’re not here to be a backup plan – you’re here to be fucking adored.

  1. How can I become a spiritual warrior and raise my frequency – to attract a profound partner?

Stop chasing love. Start becoming it. A spiritual warrior doesn’t wait for someone to choose them – they choose themselves in every breath. That means doing the inner work: clearing trauma, ending victim loops, speaking truth without apology, and embodying the love you long for. 

You raise your frequency by living in integrity, feeling your feelings, and refusing to settle for surface-level anything.

The more you become the kind of energy you want to share your life with, the more magnetic you become to partners who are equally tuned in, turned on, and unafraid of your light. So burn through your stories. Anchor in your power. And remember: the most profound relationships begin the moment you stop needing one to feel whole. 

Get in touch and let’s get you on the road to a beautiful, profound, and empowered life.

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You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

 

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How to Use EFT Tapping for Healing and Free Yourself of Trauma and Fear

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Mystics, scientists, and truth seekers have known for centuries that a deep and mysterious connection exists between our minds and our bodies. Some sages have described this connection as energy flowing through our bodies, connecting our minds to our physical shells and to the wider universe around us. So what happens when the stress and trauma of life interfere with that energy flow?

Disruptions in your body’s energy can have a serious impact on your life, and EFT tapping, or emotional freedom therapy tapping, is a powerful energy clearing technique that can restore that flow. Read on to learn more about how to use EFT tapping for trauma or how to use it to manage anxiety, stress, depression, and more.

What Is EFT Tapping?

Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as EFT tapping, is an alternative therapy technique that may be useful for anxiety, PTSD, and other fear-related disorders. This technique was developed in 1995 by Gary Craig, who believed the body has different meridians, or points where energy is more highly focused. He believed that by tapping on these meridians, a person could change their body’s energy.

EFT tapping for anxiety, or to address an array of issues, works on the same theory as acupuncture and acupressure. Instead of pressing on or sticking a pin in this location, however, the practitioner or patient simply taps on that meridian point. During this process, the patient focuses on the thing in their life that they want to change.

Who Can Tapping Help?

In general, EFT tapping is recommended for patients who are dealing with mental disorders. In particular, this treatment is a popular option for people living with chronic anxiety or depression. EFT practitioners say the technique is also useful for people with chronic pain, stress disorders, PTSD, and other fear-related disorders.

It’s important to note that, ideally, EFT tapping should be one part of your overall mental healthcare plan. In particular, if you have thoughts of hurting yourself or someone else, reach out to a professional immediately. EFT tapping will be most effective when used in combination with therapy and/or medication to keep your brain chemistry in balance.

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How Does Tapping Work?

EFT tapping focuses on the body’s energy meridians, points around your body where your energy converges. Tapping practitioners believe that you can develop blockages in these meridians that interfere with your body’s natural energy flow and cause the problems you’re experiencing. You can see a practitioner for a tapping session, or you can do the tapping technique yourself at home.

Although the tapping is, naturally, a critical part of tapping therapy, much of the technique also revolves around mindfulness. As you’re performing the tapping, it’s important to focus on the issue in your life that you need resolved. This energy clearing technique can help to focus and remove any blockages you may be experiencing.

What Are the 5 Steps to Tapping?

If you’re ready to try EFT tapping for healing, here are the five steps that Gary Craig developed to help you harness its full power to guide you towards greater clarity, emotional release, and energetic alignment.

1) Identify an Issue to Focus On

When you get ready to begin a tapping session, it’s important to pick one particular issue to focus on. It’s best to get fairly specific with this issue so that you can tackle larger problems in manageable sections. Trying to tackle too much at once could interfere with your focus and make the therapy less effective.

Spend some time meditating before your tapping session, bringing your focus into the body and letting go of all distractions. Begin to direct your attention to the problems you’re facing, and narrow that focus down to one particular issue that’s interfering with your daily life and happiness. Begin to anchor your attention into this issue, drawing it in as the focus of your session.

2) Rate the Intensity

Once you have your focus set, it’s a good idea to rate the current intensity of the problem in your life. In other words, how serious is the problem, and how much distress and disruption is it causing you at the present moment? This will help you to track if the tapping therapy is working for you or if you need to try different techniques.

As you focus on your specific issue, think about how much this issue impacts you, your daily life, and your happiness. Rate it on a scale of 0 to 10, with 0 being only a mild inconvenience and 10 being debilitating. You can also assign this ranking based on how much the problem has impacted you at other times in your life.

3) Choose a Mantra

Now that you understand the scope of your problem a little better, it’s time to choose your mantra for the EFT tapping session. This will be a specific reminder phrase you’ll use to reset your focus throughout the session. These words can help to direct the energy change that happens during the session.

Your mantra should be one of acknowledgment and acceptance, recognizing that the problem is present in your life and offering compassion and acceptance to yourself. There should be no judgment—only recognition that this is a problem in your life and that you are still worthy and a divine being of light.

4) Follow the Tapping Sequence

With your mantra and focus centered in your mind, you’ll be ready to begin the tapping sequence. You’ll need to follow a specific order as you move across the tapping points. During your first few sessions, you may want to consult an EFT tapping chart to make sure you’re hitting the right meridian points.

Tap each point in the sequence about five times with your fingertips. You can tap the points that have twin positions at the same time, or you can just tap one side. Begin with the tapping point directly in the center of the top of your head, and then move to the beginning of your brows closest to your nose. Move to the bones on the outside corner of your eyes, then to the bone about one inch below your pupils.

Next comes the point between your nose and your upper lip, followed by the point between your lower lip and your chin. Finish with the points just below the inside ends of your collarbones and then those on the sides of the body about four inches below your armpits.

5) Rate the Intensity Again

Once you’ve finished the tapping sequence, take a few deep breaths, and then rate the intensity of your issue again. In an ideal treatment, you’ll notice that the intensity has gone down from where it was when you began tapping. However, you may notice that it takes a few rounds to see noticeable improvement. If you’re not seeing improvements, you may want to reference an EFT tapping chart.

Continue this tapping sequence, repeating your mantra with each point you tap. You may find that after a while, the changes to the intensity of your problem plateau. Once this happens or the intensity reaches zero, you can stop the session and return to it as needed.

Learn More About EFT Tapping

EFT tapping can be a great way to manage stress, reduce anxiety, and ease symptoms of depression. Begin by identifying the issue you want to work on and setting a mantra of acknowledgment and acceptance. Follow the tapping sequence, repeating it until the intensity of your problem has lessened.

If you’d like to learn more about EFT tapping, check out the rest of my site at PaulWagner.com. I am here to help you awaken and bravely create an inspired life. Learn more about my services today and start changing your life in the most positive way.

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How to Heal Yourself with Glutathione

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How to Heal Yourself with Glutathione

If you’ve done any research on health foods before, you’ve probably run into the term “antioxidant.” Blueberries are good for you because they’re a powerful antioxidant, and broccoli is a good source of antioxidants. But what would you say if we told you one of the best sources of antioxidants is hidden within your very cells?

Glutathione is a natural substance present in nearly all your cells, and it can play a powerful role in unlocking your health potential. Read on to learn more about glutathione and the benefits it can provide for your body.

What Is Glutathione?

Before we dive into all the benefits glutathione can provide, let’s talk some about what it is. Glutathione is a natural substance found in nearly every cell of your body. It’s made of three different amino acids and plays a number of important roles in the basic functioning of your body.

Among other things, glutathione helps to create your DNA, the building blocks that make up your body. It helps to support your immune system, transports mercury out of your brain, helps to get rid of old cells, and helps certain enzymes do their job in your body. Glutathione also regenerates vitamins C and E in your body and helps your liver and gall bladder do their jobs.

Strong Antioxidant

One of the biggest health benefits of glutathione is that it’s a powerful antioxidant. Free radicals are unstable atoms that can cause damage to some of the cells in your body. Oftentimes, free radicals can be connected with the symptoms of aging, including wrinkles, dry skin, and so on, as well as with some diseases.

Antioxidants help to trap and neutralize those unstable atoms, keeping you healthier for longer. Because glutathione is present in nearly every cell in your body, it can be a powerful antioxidant. Increasing your glutathione levels can provide full-body health benefits, including helping you look and feel younger.

Combats Cancer

Another promising effect of glutathione is that it may help to slow the progression of cancer. Some preliminary studies show that having more glutathione can reduce oxidative stress, one of the conditions under which cancer thrives. These studies also show that glutathione may make the body less responsive to chemotherapy, and more research is needed to determine the true benefits in this area.

It is important to note that, while glutathione can help to slow some of the progression of cancer, it is not a cancer cure. If you or a loved one have been diagnosed with cancer, you should not stop the treatments your doctor has prescribed. Instead, talk to your healthcare team about if glutathione supplements could be a good addition to your treatment plan.

Reduces Liver Damage

There are a number of conditions, including alcohol abuse, fatty liver disease, and hepatitis, that damage the cells of the liver. With enough time and enough damage, your liver may begin to shut down altogether. In some cases, researchers believe glutathione may be able to reduce damage to the cells in your liver.

Glutathione’s antioxidant properties can help it to keep your liver cells healthier even as you’re battling some of this conditions. However, research so far shows that this benefit does not extend to damage done by alcohol abuse. If you or a loved one are fighting alcohol addiction, it’s important to reach out for help.

 

Improves Insulin Sensitivity

Insulin resistance happens when your body processes so much sugar that your insulin becomes less effective. Your blood sugar levels can go up and, over time, you may develop type 2 diabetes if you don’t have a significant lifestyle change. An estimated 96 million Americans – about 1 in 3 people – has prediabetes.

Glutathione could help to improve your insulin sensitivity and lower your risk of developing type 2 diabetes. Some studies have shown that people with insulin resistance tend to have lower levels of glutathione. Raising your glutathione levels may help your body to better process that sugar and keep you healthy and diabetes-free.

Reduces Parkinson’s Symptoms

Parkinson’s disease is a devastating neurological disease that causes difficulty with walking, balance, and even talking. Over time, it can leave people bedridden, trapped by their own shaking, stiff limbs. Some preliminary studies show that glutathione may help to ease some of the symptoms of this disease.

As with many other diseases, oxidation due to free radicals can be a contributing factor in the progression of Parkinson’s disease. Raising glutathione levels can reduce some of this free radical damage, slowing down the rate at which symptoms get worse. This is by no means a cure, but it can be an effective management strategy for patients living with this disease.

Reduces UC Damage

Ulcerative colitis, or UC, is a chronic bowel disease that causes inflammation and discomfort in the digestive tract. It can cause rectal bleeding, bloody diarrhea, cramps, and pain, as well as putting the patient at higher risk for colon cancer. This condition has no cure and can have a serious impact on the patient’s quality of life.

At this point, you may not be surprised to learn that one of the biggest causes of UC is – say it with me – oxidation. As with many of these conditions, the antioxidant properties of glutathione can help to fight the free radicals that cause this oxidation. This can be a good addition to your normal UC management plan.

How to Use Glutathione

There are several ways you can incorporate glutathione into your healthcare routine. Our favorite method is to open a 500 mg capsule of this supplement and pour it under your tongue. Add a teaspoon of honey and wait for the powder to dissolve before swallowing it along with 4000 mg of vitamin C.

You can also find glutathione supplements that help your body to produce more of its own glutathione naturally. Milk thistle, flaxseed, and whey all promote glutathione production, as does guso seaweed. You can also eat foods that are high in sulfur to raise your glutathione levels, including garlic, onions, broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts, bok choy, legumes, nuts, and eggs.

Safe Use

It’s important to note that, as with any supplement, you need to talk to your doctor before you begin taking glutathione. Certain supplements can interfere with some medications, and your particular health needs are different from anyone else’s. Your doctor can advise you on the safest and healthiest way to incorporate glutathione into your routine.

In general, glutathione is very safe to use. Some patients experience cramping and bloating, and others develop a rash because of an allergic reaction to the supplement. If you experience any of these symptoms, stop taking glutathione and contact your doctor immediately.

Discover More Glutathione Benefits

Glutathione is a natural substance in your body, and raising its levels can provide a number of health benefits. From fighting UC and Parkinson’s to slowing the progression of cancer and liver disease, this substance has amazing health potential. As always, talk to your doctor before beginning any new supplement, as it could interfere with the medications you’re currently taking.

If you’d like to discover more glutathione benefits, check out the rest of my site at PaulWagner.com. I am here to help you awaken and bravely create an inspired life. Learn more about my services today and start changing your life in the most positive way.

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Heal Yourself with Bach Flower Remedies

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Do you ever wish there was a magic tonic you could drink that would rid you of negative emotions? Something you could take when you’re overwhelmed, afraid, or just downright angry? What if we told you the answer may be hiding in the many beautiful flowers native to our world?

Bach Flower Remedies can be a fantastic natural way to deal with negative emotions. Read on to learn more about these remedies and how they can be used to fight negative emotions.

What Are Bach Flower Remedies?

Bach Flower Remedies was pioneered by Dr. Edward Bach and mixes low concentrations of flower essence with water and brandy to create a natural treatment. It’s important to note that these remedies are 27 percent alcohol, so don’t use them if you’re pregnant, you’ve dealt with addiction issues in the past, or you can’t consume alcohol for another reason. Always talk to your doctor before starting a new supplement or treatment to make sure it’s safe for your unique body. If you’re ready to explore these remedies for yourself, try our Bach flower remedies list.

 How Do I Choose Bach Flower Remedies?

To find the right Bach flower remedies, you can ask yourself what you’re struggling with and identify your recurring negative emotions. Simply asking yourself what you feel today can also help identify the right remedy for your present needs. We put together a Bach flower remedies list for anger and emotions to help deal with negative emotions.

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Remedies for Anger

Anger can cloud our ability to think clearly or respond with compassion. Bach Flower Remedies offers a way to recalibrate those intense emotions and help you retain inner balance and control.

Using Cherry Plum for Anger

The focus of cherry plum Bach Flower Remedies is “Be in control.” This remedy focuses on giving you clarity in chaotic moments and helping you to keep anger and rage in check. It gives you the extra support you need to stay cool and in control during those stressful moments.

Trying Holly Bach Flower for Goodwill

Holly Bach Flower Remedies focus on “Goodwill towards others.” Oftentimes, you may feel jealous or suspicious of the people around you, and you may find yourself making judgments about them. This remedy helps to encourage the positive potential you need to be open-hearted and undemanding.

Using Chicory for Unconditional Love

Bach Flower Remedies Chicory is meant to help you to love unconditionally. You may find that your anger stems from a place of overprotection or a need to control the situation. Chicory may help you to take a needed step back and care for the people in your life without expecting anything in return.

Finding Tolerance with Beech Bach Flower Remedies

The focus for beech Bach Flower Remedies is “Be more tolerant.” For many people, anger is a result of previous conceptions, rigid attitudes, and an intolerance for imperfection. Beech remedies can help you to become more tolerant, releasing those limits and your anger along with them.

Motivate Positive Leadership with Vine Remedies

Vine Bach Flower Remedies may help you to motivate, rather than dominate, in leadership situations. When we’re in positions of power, we may feel that we need to hold that ground and remain firmly in charge. Vine remedies help you to express a more positive side of leadership, being flexible and sharing your opinions without intimidation.

Remedies for Anxiety

Anxiety can quickly trap you in a cycle of worry, uncertainty, and fears that are really just constructs of the mind. This Bach flower remedies list gently works to restore your sense of calm and confidence and makes it easier to navigate life’s challenges with clarity. 

Using Aspen Back Flowers for Anxiety

The aspen Bach Flower Remedies motto is “Feel secure,” making it a perfect foil for anxiety. Our fear may spring from a lack of inner peace and security that makes us feel on edge. Aspen may help to improve your confidence, making it easier for you to tackle uncertain situations.

Trying Elm Back Flower Remedy for Productivity

The Elm Bach Flower Remedy focus, “Be efficient,” is perfect for anyone struggling with productivity due to anxiety. When our anxiety ramps up, we may often find that we have trouble checking things off our to-do list. Elm can help you to keep perspective, stay calm, and avoid the vicious cycle of being overwhelmed.

Using Mimulus Back Flower to Face Your Fears

Mimulus is one of the classic Bach Flower Remedies for anxiety with its motto “Face your fears.” We all live with fear, worry, and anxiety each day, but we don’t have to let it overcome us. Mimulus can give you the positive energy to stand up to what scares you and enjoy your life without fear.

Adding Red Chestnut Bach Flowers for Peace of Mind

Red chestnut Bach Flower Remedies focus on “Peace of mind.” Sometimes, our fear can spring from a place of love and caring, as we worry about the people we are close to. Red chestnut helps you to foster compassion for the special people in your life without all the anxiety that can impact those relationships.

Trying Rock Rose Bach Flowers for Courage

The focus phrase for Rock Rose Bach Flower Remedies is “Have courage,” a mantra many of us may need badly during the hard times of our lives. When we find ourselves in times of trouble, we may get overwhelmed by a sense of panic. Rock rose replaces that overwhelm with a deep sense of calm and courage to face the present situation.

Remedies for Sadness

Using Gentian Bach Flowers for Doubt and Despair

Gentian Bach Flower Remedies is designed for the moments of doubt and despair in your life, when you need to “accept setbacks.” As we go through hard times in life, we may be overcome by negative energy and deep feelings of sadness. Gentian can help you regain your positive potential and face your challenges with conviction.

Incorporating Gorse Back Flowers for Hope

When those times of sadness arrive, Gorse Bach Flower Remedies can help us to “have hope.” You may find yourself looking for any sign of light and hope during the hard times. Gorse can renew your positive potential and optimistic outlook to help you find the light in dark moments.

Adding Wild Rose Back Flower Remedies for Enthusiasm

Wild Rose Bach Flower Remedies are meant to help you “show enthusiasm.” Sometimes, your sadness may not be due to a specific problem but rather a more general feeling of apathy. Wild rose can help to reignite your passion for life and help you make the changes you need in your life.

Get Through Hard times with Oak Bach Flower Remedies

Getting through hard times can feel like slogging uphill with a bowling ball tied to your foot. Oak Bach Flower Remedies are meant to help you “restore endurance” and push through the bad days. It helps you to recharge and persevere without pushing past the limits of your mental and emotional health.

Ease Sadness with Honeysuckle Bach Flower Remedies

If your sadness is coming from something in your past, you may need honeysuckle Bach Flower Remedies to help you “embrace the now.” Releasing negativity in our pasts is key to finding future peace and clarity. Honeysuckle can make it easier for you to move forward in life with confidence and no regrets.

Remember, if you’re struggling with fear, it’s born out of your misunderstanding of reality. When we identify with the eternal Self, we can transcend fear. We can also follow the Buddha’s path to see through the illusion that our anxieties are permanent and liberate ourselves from our fears.

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Remedies for Frustration

If you struggle with frustration, here is what’s on the Bach flower remedies list.

Finding Patience with Impatiens Bach Flower Remedies

Impatiens, with its “Have patience” focus, is the perfect Bach Flower Remedy for frustration. When we become impatient, we may start to be frustrated with the people and situations around us that are moving more slowly than we are. Impatiens helps us to slow down, realize our positive potential, and find ease in life.

Forgive with Willow Bach Flower Remedy

Willow is a Bach Flower Remedy that focuses on “Forgive and forget.” You may become frustrated by past wrongs or things in your life that seem unfair. Willow helps you find an emotional release for that resentment, fight negativity, and find a sense of humor when things don’t go as you think they should.

Be Optimistic with Sweet Chestnut Bach Flowers

Sweet chestnut is the Bach Flower Remedy to reach for when you need to “be optimistic.” Often in the midst of frustration, we feel as though things will never get better again. Sweet chestnuts help us to regain a clear mind and face those negative feelings with peace and optimism.

Soothe Frustrations with Pine Bach Flowers 

Sometimes, our frustration may be with ourselves rather than with those around us. During these times, it’s best to use Pine Bach Flower Remedy, which helps us to “have self-respect.” This remedy shows us how to have compassion for ourselves and not beat ourselves up for mistakes.

Learn from Your Mistakes with Chestnut Bud Bach Flowers

Another facet of that internal frustration may be that we sometimes make the same mistakes over and over again. Chestnut Bud Bach Flower Remedies help us to “learn from mistakes.” It can help us to find the wisdom inherent in previous mistakes and move forward with optimism and self-compassion.

Learn More About Bach Flower Remedies

Bach Flower Remedies can be a great way to deal with negative emotions and experiences life throws our way. These natural remedies can manage some of the causes behind anxiety, sadness, anger, frustration, and other such emotions. And, as always, be sure to talk to your doctor before starting any sort of new supplement or treatment to make sure it’s safe for you.

If you’d like to learn more about the Bach Flower Remedies list, check out the rest of my site at PaulWagner.com. I am here to help you awaken and bravely create an inspired life. Learn more about my services today and start changing your life in the most positive way.

REMEMBER!

You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You have unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

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His work is focused on guiding seekers to inner freedom and awakening.