The dynamic of codependent sibling relationships, especially where one plays an aggressive role and the other a depressive or passive role, can be profoundly toxic and damaging to both individuals involved. This pattern of interaction can establish a deeply ingrained cycle of behavior that is hard to break, often carrying significant emotional and psychological ramifications.

In such relationships, the aggressive sibling may exhibit controlling, domineering, or manipulative behavior, possibly as a means to cope with their own insecurities or unresolved issues. The depressive or passive sibling, on the other hand, might develop feelings of low self-esteem, helplessness, or worthlessness, often becoming overly reliant on the aggressive sibling for emotional support or validation.

This codependency creates an unhealthy balance, where the needs and behaviors of one sibling reinforce and perpetuate the harmful behavior of the other. It’s a cycle that can be difficult to break for several reasons:

Familiarity and Comfort: Despite the toxicity, the dynamic is familiar and can provide a perverse form of comfort. Both siblings may find the predictability of their roles, no matter how destructive, to be less intimidating than the uncertainty of change.

Fear of Confrontation or Change: Addressing the issues head-on can be daunting. It might involve facing painful truths, confronting deep-seated fears, or risking the loss of the relationship altogether.

Lack of Awareness: In some cases, siblings might not even recognize the codependency as problematic. They might view their dynamic as just how their relationship works, not realizing the emotional and psychological toll it takes on both of them.

Emotional Entanglement: The emotional ties between siblings can make it challenging to set boundaries or seek independence from each other. Feelings of guilt, obligation, or fear of abandonment can further complicate attempts to change the dynamic.

Breaking the pattern requires a conscious effort from both parties, often necessitating professional help such as therapy or counseling.

This process can involve:

Acknowledging the Problem: Recognizing the toxic dynamics and their effects on both siblings is a critical first step.

Seeking Professional Help: Therapy can provide a safe space to explore the roots of these behaviors, learn healthy coping mechanisms, and develop communication skills.

Setting Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries is crucial for dismantling codependency. This might involve learning to say no, expressing needs and feelings openly, and taking responsibility for one’s own emotional wellbeing.

Fostering Independence: Encouraging personal growth and independence outside of the sibling relationship can help both individuals find fulfillment and confidence in themselves, reducing the need for codependency.

Though challenging, breaking free from a toxic codependent sibling relationship is essential for the emotional and psychological health of both individuals. With the right support and commitment to change, siblings can redefine their relationship into one that is healthy, supportive, and mutually beneficial.

 

Finally Breaking Free

Breaking free from toxic codependent sibling relationships can lead to significant benefits and positive outcomes for both individuals involved. While the process of breaking free can be challenging and fraught with emotional difficulties, the eventual results often include:

For the Individual

Improved Self-Esteem and Confidence: By stepping out of a toxic dynamic, individuals often begin to recognize their own worth and capabilities, leading to improved self-esteem and confidence. They start valuing their own needs and opinions, which can have a profound impact on all areas of their life.

Healthier Relationships: Learning to establish healthy boundaries in one sibling relationship can carry over into other relationships, leading to healthier interactions with friends, romantic partners, and colleagues. Individuals become better at communicating their needs and respecting others’ boundaries.

Increased Independence: Breaking free encourages personal growth and independence. Individuals learn to rely on themselves for their emotional well-being, making decisions based on their own desires and needs rather than out of obligation or fear of conflict.

Emotional Resilience: Facing and overcoming the challenges associated with changing or ending a toxic sibling relationship can foster emotional resilience. Individuals become more adept at handling stress and adversity.

Self-Discovery and Personal Growth: The process of breaking free often involves a significant amount of self-reflection and personal development. Individuals may discover new interests, values, and aspects of their identity that were previously overshadowed by the codependent relationship.

For the Sibling Relationship

Transformation to a Healthier Dynamic: In cases where the relationship is maintained, siblings may be able to transform their interaction into one that is healthier and more supportive. This often requires communication, forgiveness, and a mutual willingness to change.

Respect for Individuality: Breaking free from codependency allows both siblings to appreciate and respect each other’s individuality. They can interact as two independent individuals who choose to be in each other’s lives, rather than feeling obligated to fulfill predetermined roles.

Long-Term Outcomes

Better Mental and Emotional Health: Over time, individuals who break free from toxic sibling dynamics often experience significant improvements in their mental and emotional health. This includes reduced anxiety, depression, and stress levels.

Improved Life Satisfaction: With newfound independence, healthier relationships, and increased self-esteem, individuals often report higher overall life satisfaction. They may pursue goals and activities that they were previously hesitant to explore.

Stronger Support Systems: By fostering healthier relationships and expanding their social circles, individuals can build stronger, more supportive networks. This can provide a sense of belonging and support through life’s challenges.

It’s important to note that while the journey towards breaking free from a toxic codependent sibling relationship can be difficult, the benefits of doing so are profound and life-changing. Each individual’s journey will be unique, and the pace of progress will vary. Support from therapists, counselors, and support groups can be invaluable in navigating this transition.

When One Consciously Oppresses The Other

When one sibling uses toxic interpretations of religious, moral, feminist, or new-age ideologies to judge and oppress the other, it adds another layer of complexity to the already challenging dynamics of breaking free from a toxic codependent relationship. These ideologies, while potentially empowering and liberating in their healthy forms, can be weaponized to control, manipulate, and belittle, making the process of disentanglement and healing particularly intricate.

The Challenges

Moral and Ideological Guilt: The oppressed sibling might struggle with feelings of guilt or inadequacy, feeling they don’t measure up to the standards or ideals being imposed upon them. This guilt can be deeply rooted, given its association with ostensibly “higher” principles.

Confusion and Self-Doubt: The misuse of complex ideologies can lead to confusion and self-doubt about one’s own beliefs, values, and perceptions. Distinguishing between genuine moral or philosophical convictions and the distorted versions used for oppression can be challenging.

Isolation: If the oppressive sibling frames their judgments and actions within the context of a widely respected ideology, the oppressed sibling might feel isolated and misunderstood by those outside the relationship who might only see the surface-level adherence to these ideologies.

Emotional Manipulation: The oppressor may use their interpretation of these ideologies to justify emotional manipulation, claiming moral or intellectual superiority. This can further entrench the power imbalance within the relationship.

Strategies for Breaking Free and Healing

Seeking Knowledge and Understanding: Gaining a deeper, more nuanced understanding of the ideologies being used as tools of oppression can empower the oppressed sibling to challenge distortions and manipulations. Education can be a powerful tool in dismantling the perceived authority of the oppressor.

Professional Support: Counseling or therapy, especially with professionals experienced in dealing with ideologically driven abuse, can provide valuable support. They can help untangle the complex web of beliefs, emotions, and relationships, offering strategies for coping and healing.

Building a Support Network: Finding support from people outside the toxic dynamic—friends, mentors, or support groups who understand the complexity of such situations—can provide a sense of validation and belonging, mitigating feelings of isolation.

Establishing Boundaries: Setting clear boundaries with the oppressive sibling is crucial. This might involve limiting interactions, defining acceptable topics of conversation, or, in extreme cases, ceasing contact altogether. Boundary-setting is a critical step in reclaiming autonomy and self-worth.

Personal Development: Engaging in personal development activities that reinforce one’s own values, beliefs, and self-esteem can help counteract the effects of being judged and oppressed. This could include pursuing interests and hobbies, personal reflection, meditation, or spirituality that aligns with one’s own beliefs.

Advocacy and Education: For some, becoming an advocate or educator about the misuse of ideologies can be a powerful way to process their experiences and help others in similar situations. It can transform personal pain into collective healing and empowerment.

Breaking free from a toxic sibling relationship, especially when it involves the misuse of ideologies, requires courage, support, and self-reflection. It’s a process of not only distancing oneself from the toxic dynamic but also reclaiming and affirming one’s own identity, values, and beliefs. While challenging, the journey towards healing and autonomy can lead to profound personal growth and a more authentic, fulfilling life.

Your Feelings Are Valid

When one sibling refuses to allow the other the full expression and release of their emotions, especially when it conflicts with their ideology or false oppressive doctrines, it creates an environment where emotional suppression is normalized, and genuine communication is stifed. This form of emotional invalidation can be deeply harmful, leading to long-term psychological effects, including increased anxiety, depression, and a diminished sense of self-worth.

Understanding the Impact

Emotional Suppression: Being unable to express emotions freely can lead to the internalization of these emotions. Over time, this suppression can manifest as physical illness, severe stress, or mental health issues.

Loss of Authentic Self: Constantly having to hide or alter one’s emotional responses to fit another’s expectations can lead to a disconnection from one’s true self and feelings.

Relationship Deterioration: When genuine emotional expression is stifled, it prevents the development of a deep, meaningful connection between the siblings, leading to a superficial or strained relationship.

Enforcement of Power Dynamics: This behavior enforces unhealthy power dynamics within the relationship, where one sibling exerts control over the other’s emotional life, reinforcing dependency and submission.

Strategies for Coping and Healing

Acknowledgment and Validation: Acknowledging your feelings to yourself is a crucial first step. Validation can also come from friends, support groups, or therapists who recognize the legitimacy of your emotions and experiences.

Seeking Professional Help: Therapists can offer strategies for managing suppressed emotions and navigating complex family dynamics. They can also help in developing resilience and a stronger sense of self.

Building Emotional Literacy: Learning to identify, understand, and articulate your emotions can empower you to manage them more effectively. This includes recognizing the physical sensations associated with emotions and finding healthy outlets for expression.

Creating Safe Spaces for Expression: Finding or creating environments where emotional expression is supported and encouraged can provide relief. This might include supportive friend groups, online communities, or therapeutic settings.

Practicing Self-Care and Self-Compassion: Engaging in activities that promote well-being and offer a release for pent-up emotions is important. This can include exercise, art, journaling, or meditation.

Setting Boundaries: It may be necessary to set boundaries with the sibling who suppresses your emotional expression. This could mean limiting contact or explicitly stating what behaviors are unacceptable to you.

Developing Independence: Focusing on personal growth and independence can help mitigate the impact of a sibling’s attempts to suppress emotional expression. Pursuing personal interests, goals, and relationships outside of the sibling dynamic can reinforce one’s sense of self and right to their emotions.

Conclusion

Dealing with a sibling who refuses to allow full emotional expression is challenging, but it’s important to remember that your emotions are valid, regardless of how they are received by others. Working towards understanding and expressing your emotions in healthy ways, seeking supportive environments, and establishing boundaries are essential to preserving your emotional health and well-being.

The Shankara Oracle is a profound tool to help you come to know yourself deeply.

The Ultimate Orgasm

Let’s all orgasm as often as possible, shall we? 

We are all looking for the ultimate, phantasmic cum-ination of our desires. We’re all pushing and grasping to be happy. And we love when our bodies experience release. 

We awake every day and venture to bed every day fantasizing about reaching a place of not only comfort and peace but ultimate pleasure.

I knew that the pleasure I was enjoying at the time was limited, so I kept digging.

The more and more I delved into spiritual practices, I would have moments that blew my mind, but it felt like the carrot was always 10 feet in front of me. I knew there were other realms and experiences to be achieved, but I also knew that my desire to achieve these things opposed the path I was embracing.

At the time, I was often consciously leaving my body and engaging in myriad spiritual activities – whereby my spirit was engaging with reality in ways that were not textbook. Other Beings were contacting me, I saw aliens from other dimensions, and I had a ridiculous amount of light coming through my hands, which was helpful to some – and alarming to others. I was a diamond in the rough.

My level of electricity was quite alarming, and I was a bit wild. While it wasn’t a time of awareness and decency (I was clearly a work in progress), I was earnest in seeking the highest good and the most vibrant light.

I met Amma, The Hugging Saint, in a tiny room in Cambridge, MA, where I immediately fell to the floor in worship. Later, I opened her retreats with playful, spiritual lectures. I studied the teachings of Chogyam Trungpa and Osho. At the time, I was a children’s TV show host and traveling comedian, and for years felt a conflict within me around being in the world while knowing what it was like to be around Amma – there was nothing more illuminating. 

I was itchin’ to evolve but I had a ways to go-  from Oversexed Comedic Yogi to Bearer Of Light. 

Tantric Sex

I was fascinated by the idea of channeling my energy rather than depleting it. While it took me years to achieve, I was later able to channel my sexual energy upwards from the root chakra through to the crown and beyond – all with orgasms at each chakra and without ejaculating. I loved the energy tantric sex gave me. Without the release, my body vibrated and attracted great success – and over time, my third eye burst open.

It’s better than pizza. 

While the intuition and psychic abilities that emerge are quite wonderful, they pale in comparison to the sense of divinity one can achieve through the process of moving the kundalini upwards in the body.

Given the tingling from each mini energy burst (orgasm) in the chakras as the kundalini rises to the crown, it’s something I’ve continued and appreciated throughout my whole life.

Even so, for a long while, I was still identifying with the body, not the All That Is.

I know that sounds a bit lofty, but it’s quite real – and yes, achievable.

We are continually seeking pleasure – and that’s a good thing. 

By seeking pleasure, we seek The Divine – possibly a transconditional reality – whereby, whatever is happening in our lives, regardless of the circumstances, we become present to joy of spirit and body – or we embody bliss. We know this is possible because our essence, our Being, our electromagnetic sets of memory impressions, have experienced it before, either in other realms or other lives. Or in parallel! 

I’m not talking about what happens in college when we experiment with our pinkies and various holes – I’m referring to other-worldly experiences.

We might believe that our memory of divine bliss involves the human body, but it doesn’t.

It’s incredible how each of us can fool ourselves.

The False Tantra

Let’s get into the mechanics of tantras.

The Kama Sutra, written by Vatsyayana Mallanaga, is primarily concerned with kama, one of the four aims of traditional human life in Hindu philosophy. It deals with desire, love, relationships, and sexual intercourse. While it is not based in the non-dualistic principles found in the ancient Advaita Vedanta or the Buddhist Noble truths, for a time, it became a manual for dualistic, holistic, if not, hedonistic living.

Tantras are a genre of religious scriptures found in Hinduism and Buddhism covering a wide range of topics, including philosophy, rituals, prayers, yogas, and styles of worship. 

The confusion between the word “tantra” and “tantric sex” stems from a combination of cultural misinterpretations, oversimplifications, influencer hype and misdirection, and the sensationalization around a tiny insignificant sexual discourse found in the outskirts of the more sacred traditions. In short, people in the west twisted the concept of Tantras because we prefer sex over enlightenment.

The Real Tantra

“Tantric yoga” focuses specifically on yogic techniques for spiritual growth that have nothing to do with sex. These techniques move the Qi (Chi) or Kundalini upward to heal our spirits and illuminate our souls.

Some call the kundalini a “sexual energy” – which is misleading. It’s energy – that’s it. Too many “Tantric sex” phonies are our there trying to convince you that their sex addiction is sacred – and it’s not. 

People who become involved in “tantric sex” cum to believe that sex is the most important part of that technology – but that’s the farthest thing from the truth. 

The most important aspect is the Qi – the life force. Our furry, moist, and erect parts have little or nothing to do with the sacred nature or results of the Qi’s movement throughout our systems.

Tantric Yoga deals with the breath and spirit beyond what we might call “pleasure.” This is the REAL TANTRA.

Today’s Tantra Teachers

There are many “tantra” teachers out there professing the embodiment of divine bliss through sex, sharing only the glittering and ejaculatory aspects of these ancient teachings, thereby creating karma for themselves – and all the while misleading you.

Pleasure can be seen in the Sanskrit word Ananda (Joy), which has an embedded illusory emotion, and in the transcendent form of pleasure – bliss, found in the Sanskrit word Paramananda. This points to a divine fulfillment on the path to illumination and enlightenment. 

In this sense, tantra or sacred practices that do not require the body’s fulfillment can be seen as phenomenal ways to embody pure, unrelenting paramananda. 

The sexual juices that flow from our bodies and the elation that results from our achievement of desires are tied to our bodies, not our spirits. After all, our desires are temporary and can only invite roller coasters of suffering.

Let’s Do Tantric Sex!

Tantric Sex occurs through mutual manual masturbation or consensual penetration. 

During the tantric act of intercourse (all sexual activity with a partner is intercourse – the interplay between two sets of energies), we use breath to move the kundalini up from the root chakra to the other chakras. 

Amid the intercourse, we imagine a specific colored light at each energy point, and through breath, we achieve not an externally manifested ejaculation, but a pleasurable energy release through each chakra. 

This, for a moment, can feel orgasmic – and it is. 

It’s a form of pleasure that feels ultimate and divine for a brief burst of time – but only because we tie our divine pleasure to the body, which is unnecessary. Pure Tantra does not require enmeshment with another soul – or their furry parts.

In fact, it’s far more illuminating if you can learn to move your kundalini up and down your spine through yoga and breath. In this way, you experience a less codependent healing and release in your chakras – without being bound to another. 

Many of today’s tantra teachers are ejaculating like race horses, and encouraging the same – as if that’s the whole point. It’s not.

Yes, tantra – sacred practices – are quite wonderful, but most tantric sex teachings fail to have integrity. They also require a lot of time – and who has that kinda time?  

Tantric sex has become yet another device that deters you from knowing who you are – like a dildo, rubber vagina, sex doll, or other mechanical and illusory devices used for personal pleasure. 

These things only add to the cycle of Samsara – and are often more confusing, debilitating, restrictive, and alienating than we might assume. 

How lonely do you have to be to buy batteries to fuel your bliss? 

Dive deeper and get to the root of your loneliness. Get up early, instead, and put your batteries in a flashlight, so you can find your way to a carpeted area of your home.

Now, get on the floor and start breathing deeply, meditating, and doing yoga. If your pants are always on fire, get into Kundalini Yoga. It’s phenomenal for unlocking everything related to loneliness, blocked emotions, the roots of trauma, overly kinky behavior, and the things that hold us back.

What Is Transconditional?

Even the momentary experiences of satisfying simple pleasures or mundane desires can invite enough joy to fool us into thinking that we’ve transcended something. Though, we have not.

We may have captured, for a moment, a spark of divine energy, but we have not embodied it. We may, for a time, have forgotten all that ails us, but we have not transcended it. 

By the way, I’m not saying do not masturbate, ejaculate, or orgasm in the traditional sense. I’m suggesting a better, more spiritualized, more energizing, and healthier way to engage your life force and all of your body’s related energies and requisite juices.

So, where is my orgasm? 

Hint: it has nothing to do with oral sex, penetration, or manual stimulation of the tip or clit.

What, then, is the ultimate tantra or technology that will illuminate me into a concaving, coalescing, explosive, wild state of release?

Consider the essence of your Being far beyond the physical and mental layers that you often mistake for your true Self. Explore deeper practices that help you detach from the superficial layers of reality. Seek unconditional joy – paramananda.

The quest for the ultimate tantra or technology is, in essence, a journey inward, a navigation through the layers of Self that leads to an explosive release not bound by conventional understandings of pleasure or satisfaction. It is about finding that core of stillness and unbounded ecstasy within, which does not depend on external stimuli – but is a natural state of Being. 

Dismantle your many layers of conditioning, expectation, and attachment that cloud your perception and hinder your ability to experience pure bliss. 

This is not a $50 workshop on Instagram – it’s a process that requires patience, dedication, and a willingness to embrace the unknown, ultimately leading to a state of being where happiness and fulfillment are not conditional but are intrinsic to your very essence.

When we move our kundalini upward through Sadhana (spiritual practices), we experience a serene, profound illumination whereby we can go through a whole day entrenched in divine bliss – loving all aspects that we encounter. This is your birthright.

The Spirituality Two-Step

We are all dancing around the spiritual practices that have been shared with us since the beginning of time. We quote gurus and masters, and we go back to buying Teslas and Rivians, which comprise the perfect embodiment of exactly what no one needs.

We might meditate or chant for a moment, but in the next moment, we’re drawn back into the whirlwind of consumer culture, captivated by the latest symbols of status that signify success in the material world. This juxtaposition highlights a fundamental tension within many of us: the desire to live spiritually fulfilling lives while navigating the demands and temptations of contemporary society.

The calling, then, is to engage with the world in a way that enriches rather than detracts from spiritual growth, using the insights and practices of ancient spiritual teachings and masters to navigate the complexities of modern life.

By consciously integrating spiritual principles into our daily lives, we inch closer to knowing who we are and what reality comprises.

But Wait – What About My Orgasm?

We are all obsessed with our orgasms, but truly, to move the kundalini upward in the body, without release, gives us the energy we need to embody a divine consciousness and become vessels of love and light throughout the day, week, month, year, or longer. 

Every spark we withhold and put to work for our betterment and the betterment of humanity dissolves our karma and gives us more resolute and everlasting joy.

In today’s world, where achieving the Big O can seem like a competitive sport, complete with its own commentary and instant replays, the ancient art of kundalini yoga and yogic breathing offer a less… climactic approach to ecstasy. 

While many are on the hunt for that explosive moment of joy, there exists a more sublime and, dare we say, electrifying way to channel that energy.

I promise you – once your energy is harnessed, the results are quite lovely and remarkable. You move through the day with extraordinary sparks of light and love. You resolve tension more quickly. You sense into other people’s feelings and positions with great empathy and awareness. You nurture more and think less. And you more easily access, allow, and release emotions to produce a more clear state of mind and heart. 

To the naysayers, I’ll add this: This process can be challenging and it’s not always perfect. Sometimes you feel the need to clean the pipes, so you do. I’m just suggesting there are far better ways to toss your energy pellets.

Capture All The Spark You Can!

Instead of letting the fireworks explode and fizzle out, then napping until the morning alarm goes off, gently coax your kundalini serpent up your spine, and teach it to climb like a skilled acrobat, all the while keeping the grand finale at bay. 

This isn’t about turning your back on fleeting pleasures; it’s about becoming a spiritual powerhouse – one who electro-magnifies and projects their essence through the day.

By rerouting your inner sparkles to light up your chakras, you’re not just hoarding joy – you’re becoming a mobile disco ball of divine consciousness. 

The next time you’re chasing the dragon of ephemeral, fantastical ecstasy, remember: 

Through the process of kundalini yoga and moving your consciousness and energy upward to the crown Chakra, you become a supernova – a pulsating, light-emanating, enduring, and stable cluster of stars.

The real party is not in your pants – it’s at the base of your spine, where it lights up your soul, dissolves your karma, and turns you into a beacon of love and light, emanating the pure essence that created The Cosmos.

Unleash Your Heart Into The Wild – At Waffle House

Venture not into the heart of a Waffle House, and you forsake the raw, uncut essence of humanity itself. My spirit, ablaze with a ferocious love for every soul I encounter within its walls, undergoes a rebirth every time I walk through those double-glass doors. Here, my heart doesn’t just open – it detonates, reborn into the crucible of pure, unadulterated existence.

I fucking LOVE Waffle House and every person in it.

This sanctuary of eggs and dreams is a prism, refracting the human spirit in a spectrum so vivid, it cuts to the core of what it means to be viscerally, messily, even crazily human. 

You’re thrust into the bursting, boiling cauldron of raw, chaotic existence, where shadows and light dance in the most intoxicating embrace. Escape is futile, but then, why would you ever wish to flee from such a feast for the soul?

For those who’ve danced with their own shadows, traversed the infernos of personal hell – you know what I’m talking about. This isn’t about the gloss and veneer of Being or sweetness; it’s about becoming the raw nerve of truth, quivering with the electric, unpredictable dance of life.

Amidst the quiet lulls, more often than not, Waffle House is a tempest of raw humanity – unfiltered, untamed, unnerving, and unsettling. And yet, therein lies its staggering beauty. A cacophony of life in its myriad forms: shouts of ire – “I need my damn fucking coffee,”  the haunted eyes of those battling their demons, the veneer of troubled politicians, the laughter of families, and the solitary souls seeking refuge in the embrace of caffeine, served with unassuming grace in mugs born in the 50s.

Even the menu, with its poetic ode to hashbrowns – smothered, covered, chunked, and more—mirrors the tumultuous journey of our hearts in search of solace, mirroring the scars we bear from our loves lost and battles fought.

This isn’t the musings of a spiritual neophyte – a newbie influencer who memorized the soundtracks from Glee. This is the battlefield of existence and I’m a spiritual warrior. No matter how enlightened we fancy ourselves, we are all conscripts, even pawns, in this harsh war of life.

Amidst this theater of the soul stands the valiant, the unyielding waitstaff – warriors of empathy, serving not just meals but moments of raw truth, echoing the no-nonsense therapy of the ancient sages, demanding we confront our truths without pretense or excuse. It doesn’t need to be pretty to produce liberation.

Feast upon the offerings of Waffle House, and you court the divine madness of life itself – each bite a delicious defiance against the mundane, in opposition to your health – a testament to the sublime but delicious chaos of existence.

Here, in the undercurrent of overheard conversations, lies the unvarnished truth of our journeys. We are reminded of the folly of our insulated spiritual quests, our convoluted philosophies that distance us from the visceral tapestry of real, unadulterated life.

“I got off the streets, where’s my free meal?”

“I love you but I can’t stay in this relationship.”

“I’ll be at the office soon – on an errand.”

“Where the FUCK is my coffee!”

We are called not to the superficiality of pretense but to the profound depths of authentic existence – where raw emotion and spiritual truth coalesce into the alchemy of true transformation.

~ Dare to live out loud, to scream your truth into the void.

~ Let tears be your testament in the most unexpected of places.

~ Embrace the liberation of chaos, if it means the purging of your soul’s anguish.

~ Be raw, wild, and free amid whatever fantasy thrills you.

This, the essence of true release, of letting go of the accumulated disease of a life half-lived, is where healing begins.

In the sacred space of a Waffle House, amidst the second cups of rule-defying, heart-abusing coffee, revelations unfold. The farce of modern spirituality is laid bare, revealing the path to authentic Self-discovery and a hurricane-styled liberation from the shackles of societal expectation and personal illusion. You are not your false Self – that person you pretend to be, after all.

We are at once oppressed and the oppressors of our own essence, caught in the webs of transient identities and expectations. Yet, here, in the crucible of the real, we are offered the keys to our own chains.

~ You owe no allegiance but to the truth of your own spirit.

~ Break free, and in doing so, become the lighthouse for others lost in the fog of existence.

~ Embrace the unrelenting, untamed, and unreasonable heart of your Being, and in its unbridled expression, find the path to true freedom.

The journey is not one of conformity to the illusory safe harbors of reality, damn it. It’s a voyage into the tempestuous seas of your own spirit’s journey, guided by the stars of your deepest truths – and the truths you have avoided for lifetimes..

Masters of the Spirit – of the eternal – have always known this: The path to enlightenment is not in the stifling of desire, but in its understanding, its expression, and ultimately, its transcendence.

So, let the cat not just out of the bag – but thrust it into the wild, where it can breathe, live, and teach us the meaning of freedom.

In the end, those ensnared in the seductive but shallow allure of faux spirituality, who have lost themselves in the maze of their own Instagram contrivances, serve as beacons – not of enlightenment, but of warning: The path is not pretty or purple. And mermaids and angels are nothing when compared to a raging, addicted man-bitch in heels at 6am at Waffle House.

~ Rise above.

~ Forgive, not just others, but yourself. 

~ It’s time to step into the boundless realm of your raw, free Self and embrace your true potential.

You are not a mere participant in the cosmic dance, my friend – you are its choreographer, born of the wild, untamable essence of The Universe, eternally beloved, limitless in every conceivable way.

Drink that third cup of coffee and devour those last bites of your smothered browns. The day has just begun! YOU GOT THIS.

Oh, and…

In this journey of self-liberation, rituals like Changing The Book Of Life and The Seven Arrows Ritual can be your guideposts, and for those seeking divine insight, The Shankara Oracle awaits to illuminate your path.