Wake Up Sunshine: Is Your Partner Truly Committed to You?

Hello, Spiritual Firestarters!

Today, we’re tearing off the rose-colored glasses and facing a truth we often only whisper about: the chilling possibility that your love life might be more illusion than reality. In the whirlwind of new romance, it’s all too easy to float blissfully on cloud nine. You’re tumbling headlong into love, every moment is exhilarating, and everything feels just perfect. But what happens when that intoxicating mist begins to clear and you start noticing things aren’t quite as they seemed?

If this sounds painfully familiar, you might be caught in the snares of ‘cushioning’ or ‘back-burnering’. Let’s dive into these modern dating disasters and identify the glaring red flags that signal your partner might not be as into this as you are.

Cushioning: The Infamous Backup Plan

Cushioning is the dark art of keeping someone else on the sidelines—just in case things with you don’t work out. Yes, it’s as underhanded as it sounds. Behind the scenes, they’re nurturing a semi-romantic connection with another, ready to jump ship the second your relationship hits turbulent waters.

Back-Burnering: Spotlight Not on You

Slightly different yet equally soul-crushing is back-burnering. Here, you’re not necessarily competing with another lover, but make no mistake: you are not the main event. You are the understudy, the second choice, lingering in the wings while your partner scans the horizon for a better option. They’re there, but they’re not with you. Not fully, not really.

Signs You’re Being Played

Obsessed with Their Phone: If your partner can’t part with their phone, sneaking texts and guarding it like nuclear codes, alarm bells should ring.

Hot and Cold: Are they all over you one minute and colder than a winter in Siberia the next? Such erratic behavior often points to them weighing their options—and you’re not the only one.

Flaky Plans: If getting them to commit to plans is like negotiating peace treaties, it’s because they’re keeping their options open, waiting to see if something “better” comes along.

Frequent Stand-Ups: Once is a mistake; repeatedly is a pattern. If they often ditch plans last-minute, their priorities are elsewhere.

Radio Silence: A genuinely interested partner finds time to communicate. No response is a response—it means they’re just not that into you.

Dwindling Intimacy: If your sex life has gone from steamy to non-existent without explanation, it’s likely their desires—and perhaps their attentions—are directed elsewhere.

While everyone has off days or moments where they withdraw, consistent patterns of the above behaviors over months are not just red flags; they’re flashing neon signs.

What You Deserve

Let’s get real: Relationships aren’t Band-Aids for loneliness. A truly fulfilling relationship enhances your life; it doesn’t compensate for what’s lacking. You deserve a partner who’s thrilled to be with you, committed to growing together, and treats you like the priority you are.

Take the Reins

If your gut is screaming that something’s off, listen to it. Don’t drown in a sea of excuses for someone who wouldn’t even wade into shallow waters for you. Remember, you’re not destined to play second fiddle in anyone’s orchestra.

And hey, always check yourself first. Maybe it’s your actions or lack of commitment that’s stirring the pot. Reflect, assess, and be honest with yourself. Start from a place of gratitude—acknowledge what’s genuinely wonderful about your partner. If you still end up asking, “Why the hell are they acting this way?” it’s time to bring it into the light.

If your instincts are still tingling after you’ve done your soul-searching, consider this your clarion call to action. You’re not here to be anyone’s backup plan or second choice. You’re here to be the star of your own epic love story.

So, Vibrant Firestarters of the Divine, if this resonates, it’s time to reassess, reclaim your power, and maybe reroute your journey to someone who truly values and cherishes you. Don’t settle for the shadows when you were born to shine brightly in the sun.

Join me and my tribe, and let’s dive deeper. While it won’t always be intense, I promise it’ll be one hell of a ride.

Paul Wagner 🕊️ Shri Krishna Kalesh

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Cutting Ties With Toxic Family: A Fierce Guide to Emotional Liberation

Hey, Wild Spiritual Warriors!

It’s time to slice through the niceties and get real about something that’s dark, heavy, and downright dirty: dealing with toxic family members. You know the ones—dressed up in new-agey, warm-fuzzy exteriors, but quick to judge and crush you just to uphold their archaic views and crafted personas.

The Brutal Truth About Toxic Family Ties

Let’s lay it out straight: you are under no cosmic contract to keep every relative in your life just because you share some DNA, a craving for chocolate, or a last name. And here’s a liberating thought—sometimes, cutting ties is not just a gift to yourself but also a relief to them. Why would they want an empowered, free-thinking black sheep challenging their comfy status quo? They wouldn’t. It’s too damn scary for them! Easier to blame you or make you the family scapegoat.

This isn’t a call to demonize all familial connections. Hell no! If you’ve hit the family jackpot with genuinely loving, fair-minded folks who support you, then by all means, hold onto them with everything you’ve got!

But for many of us, the family portrait is more grotesque gallery than serene scene. Our familial interactions are like navigating a funhouse of distorted mirrors, with personalities so warped that no sane system of communication could possibly prevail.

Recognizing the Toxic Sludge

Were you silenced, neglected, or outright rejected during those formative years? Ever feel like stepping back into the family circle means slapping on a mouthguard and a dunce cap, as your authentic self is shoved into the darkest corners of familial expectations?

It’s time to dig deep. You might need to wade through the muck of old emotional wounds—so overwhelming that a simple conversation with these relatives feels like an expedition into insanity.

Embracing Your Uniqueness

Every situation is different, and no traditional, new-age, or religious label is going to simplify your decision. Humans are complex creatures, and the path to personal freedom is a labyrinth, not a straight road.

If you’re nodding as you read, feeling the sting and weight of recognition, know this: own your truth fiercely. You don’t need a stamp of approval to reshape your life. Those who truly love and value you will seek you out with hearts wide open, offering respect, kindness, and deep empathy.

The Power of Choice

Going nuclear on your family ties isn’t always the first step. Start by reconciling with your past mistakes—forgive yourself and others. Accept things as they are, find your peace, then consider if drastic cuts are necessary.

When it’s time to decide on your relationships, drown out the cacophony of judgment from old family dynamics, sibling rivalries, and societal or religious pressures. Listen to your own voice—it’s the only one that counts.

Live Wild, Live Free

You’re not just surviving; you’re reclaiming your power. You’re not merely cutting ties; you’re liberating your spirit to thrive in your truth.

So, warriors, let’s not just endure our families. Let’s redefine what family means on our own terms—wildly, freely, authentically. Here’s to forging our paths, building our tribes, and living the lives we were truly meant to live—unapologetically and on our own terms.

Remember, warriors, the path to personal freedom often involves burning a few bridges to light the way. Let’s set the world ablaze with our truth, and never look back except to see how far we’ve come.

Join me and my tribe, and let’s dive deeper. While it won’t always be intense, I promise it’ll be one hell of a ride.

Paul Wagner 🕊️ Shri Krishna Kalesh

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Express Your Wild Side And Be Free

Welcome to the wild side, where the air is fresh with authenticity and the spirit roars free. In the curated chaos of our world, self-expression is not just an act; it’s an art form that demands to be mastered. 

It’s not about flooding your social feeds with every waking thought or oversharing at every turn. No, it’s far deeper and infinitely more raw. 

It’s about the unapologetic, unbridled freedom to be exactly who you are – without fear, without guilt, and absolutely without shame.

Why Self-Expression Feels Like a Battlefield

Let’s get real: the struggle with self-expression is as old as time, but why is it so damn hard? The ugly truth is that it’s not just a personal battle; it’s a societal one. From the moment we could walk and talk, society has been trying to shove us into its little boxes. 

“Behave this way,” “Don’t say that,” – sound familiar? This isn’t just people being annoying; it’s a systemic issue. Others project their discomfort onto us, and over time, they manipulate us into suppressing our true selves. Why? Because our wild, untamed spirits challenge the status quo, and that scares the hell out of people who live inside the lines.

If you grew up in a family that lacked self-awareness—and let’s face it, that covers a lot of us – you were probably taught to suppress your spirit from the get-go. This lesson, hammered in year after year, becomes a deeply ingrained habit. Tough to break? Hell yes. 

But is it necessary? Even more so.

The High Cost of Keeping Yourself Caged

If we don’t smash through the chains of self-suppression, they will inevitably shatter us. We aren’t here to be meek or mild; we’re here to let our spirits soar, to express our uniqueness with every fiber of our beings. You are the hands of the Divine, placed on this Earth to create, to impact, to simply be you in all your glory.

Why shrink? Why diminish your light? The stakes are high—self-suppression isn’t just about feeling a bit off; it can lead you down a dark path. It’s not uncommon to find oneself doing things they detest, just to blend in, or even becoming physically and mentally ill from the sheer weight of living a lie.

How to Liberate Your True Self

So, how do you break free? It starts by taking self-expression seriously. Dive into what gives you joy and integrate it fiercely into your life. Practice voicing your thoughts, assert your boundaries boldly, and become comfortable with being wrong or embarrassed. Most importantly, learn to detach your sense of worth from the validation of others.

Your soul didn’t traverse thousands of lifetimes just to arrive here and be ordinary. It came to shake things up, to blaze trails, to live out loud.

Embrace the Chaos of Authentic Living

Remember, seeking enlightenment isn’t supposed to be a quiet stroll through a serene garden. It’s supposed to be a wild ride down roaring rapids, filled with unexpected dips and turns. It’s in the chaos where we find our strength, in the clashes where we discover our true allies, and in the challenges where we meet our most authentic selves.

Don’t tame the wild within you. Don’t domesticate your spirit or neuter your passions until they’re so diluted you can’t even recognize yourself. The world doesn’t need more echoes; it needs loud, resounding voices that dare to speak their truth.

Let’s rip off the muzzles, shatter the cages, and live like the magnificent, untamed forces of nature we were always meant to be. If you’re ready to dive into the depths of your own spirit, join me. While it won’t always be gentle, it will certainly be an adventure worth every breath.

So, what do you say? Are you ready to be an insanely fierce tiger in a world that tries too hard to keep us all like over-medicated kittens? Let’s do this—wild, free, and unapologetically ourselves.

Join me and my tribe, and let’s dive deeper. While it won’t always be intense, I promise it’ll be one hell of a ride.

Paul Wagner 🕊️ Shri Krishna Kalesh

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Unleashing the Wild Within! F*CK Political Correctness!

In a world where the fear of offense has begun to overshadow the courage of expression, we find ourselves at a crossroads. The pervasive culture of political correctness has not only dulled our dialogues but threatens to domesticate the very essence of our humanity. It’s time to break free from these shackles—not with recklessness, but with the raw, unapologetic fervor of our true selves.

The Dangers of a Sanitized Society

“Creativity is the greatest rebellion in existence,” Osho once declared. If that’s true, then in our current climate of enforced politeness and suppressed speech, we are stifling that creative rebellion. We’re being herded into neatly labeled pens, where the wildness of our nature is tamed and our vibrant colors fade into monochrome.

What happens to a society that loses its color, its spice, its very lifeblood? It shrinks. It withers. Just like a muscle unexercised, our spiritual and emotional selves atrophy in the confinement of these tiny, sanitized boxes.

The Call to Wildness

We were not born to be mild. We were born to make waves, to stir the pots, to challenge the status quo. “Be realistic: Plan for a miracle,” Osho urged. In the real world, miracles are wrought from the fiery cauldron of challenge, change, and chaos, not from the tepid waters of compliance and conformity.

Political correctness seeks to silence any voice that might disrupt the tranquil surface of societal decorum. But let us remember that it is the storm that tests the strength of our ships, not the calm. Let us be uncomfortable. Let us be triggered. Let these challenges be opportunities for growth, not retreat.

Healing Through Disruption

In the dance of human interaction, stepping on toes is inevitable. The question is not how to avoid this discomfort but how to grow from it. “Don’t move the way fear makes you move. Move the way love makes you move,” taught Osho. Let us approach our interactions with love—not a love that coddles and conceals but a love that confronts and liberates.

It is through the fiery forge of disagreement and discomfort that we temper the steel of our spirits. Cancelling each other for every misstep does not teach us to dance better—it teaches us to fear dancing at all.

Embracing a World of Wild Wonder

The world needs your unfiltered truth, your unbridled passion, your untamed soul. It needs the chaotic beauty of your honest expression. “To be creative means to be in love with life,” Osho reminded us. Fall in love with life all over again by daring to speak, to live, and to be your most authentic self.

Let us not shrink from the world but expand into it. Let’s break the boxes, tear off the tape, and reclaim the wildness within. Our path to enlightenment is not through suppression but through expression—fierce, fearless, and free.

Are you ready to play into this?

Strap in, because I’m not here to hand you a sugar-coated pill to swallow. Hell no. I’m here to shake the very foundations we stand on and maybe, just maybe, awaken some dormant souls in the process.

I’m the guy who uses the word “fuck” like it’s going out of style. I crack jokes that make the uptight squirm and clutch their pearls. I tell it like it is. So, you guessed it—I’m hardly the favorite at genteel gatherings. But who needs cocktail parties when the whole world is your stage?

Why am I like this? Not because I can’t zip it, but because I bloody well refuse to. I’ve got zero interest in living in a world padded with niceties that tries to box us in, sand down our edges, and seal our lips.

I thrive on roller coasters, wild winds, and the explosive chaos of a thunderstorm. Seriously.

We’re rapidly losing not just the wild places of this world—the forests, the oceans—but the wild, unapologetic spirits that dare to confront the sterile status quo. The raw, unfiltered humanity that paints life in vivid strokes is being erased. Those bold enough to live untamed, to speak truth to power, and to defy being sanitized are often the ones who get silenced.

Our culture is increasingly dominated by content that’s scrubbed clean, bleached of any offense, crafting a bland, homogenized, “WTF” landscape. It perpetuates the ludicrous notion that we’re all meant to live in adorable little boxes, following some contrived influencer’s guidebook sold to us through the filtered lens of social media.

But what happens when we cram ourselves into these manicured, tiny cells? We wither. We shrink. We lose the wildest, most authentic parts of ourselves—all to fit a fabricated ideal. And in doing so, we become no match for the roaring challenges of life or the fierce, wild dreams that smolder deep within our guts.

Life demands that we be ferocious, hungry tigers—not docile kittens drooling into bedpans, shitting into buckets that house our lost, abandoned dreams.

Political correctness is on a relentless crusade to silence anything that might stir discomfort or trigger a reaction. Well, I say fuck that. Let’s get uncomfortable. Let’s get triggered. Let’s use that discomfort to grow, to heal our wounds, to stretch our boundaries. Let’s provoke ourselves into a wild, sexy rage where we might just do something as outrageous as eating Doritos and making love like there’s no tomorrow until the aliens show up.

Instead of canceling each other at the first hint of friction, why not learn to dance with the discord? Navigate the rough waters of human relationships. Say “fuck off,” “fuck you,” and see what the hell unfolds. Whatever happens, it can’t be worse than the soul-crushing bullshit we’ve been spoon-fed since adolescence.

Seeking enlightenment isn’t about basking in a serene, Zen garden. It’s about diving headfirst into a raging river teeming with unpredictable currents and hidden depths.

In the tumult, we find our strength. In the clashes, we discover our true allies and in the challenges, we unearth our relentless, authentic selves.

So, let’s not tame the wild fuckleberry within us. Let’s not domesticate our spirits or neuter our passions until our hormones pack up and leave. The world needs more raw truth, more fiery passion, more unfiltered voices—not fewer.

Let’s bust the lids off life. Let’s shatter the frail boxes that confine us. And let’s start living like the potent, wild, untamed devils we were always meant to be. Let’s be insanely fierce tigers in a world full of over-medicated kittens.

Join me and my tribe, and let’s dive deeper. While it won’t always be intense, I promise it’ll be one hell of a ride.

Paul Wagner 🕊️ Shri Krishna Kalesh

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Embracing Discomfort: The Secret to Achieving Your Desires

In the journey of personal and spiritual growth, there is one pivotal factor that often determines the extent of our success and fulfillment: our tolerance to discomfort. This essential trait, when cultivated, can become the cornerstone of profound transformation and achievement. Yet, it remains one of the most challenging aspects to embrace fully.

Why Tolerance to Discomfort Matters

Discomfort is an inevitable part of life—it accompanies every significant change, every deep healing, and every moment of growth. When we face uncomfortable emotions and sensations, we are presented with an opportunity: to learn from these feelings or to shy away from them. Our response to this choice sets the trajectory of our lives.

Healing Through Discomfort

Healing is fundamentally about becoming whole, which requires us to confront and integrate aspects of ourselves that we might prefer to ignore. This process is inherently uncomfortable but deeply necessary. By developing a tolerance to discomfort, we allow ourselves to face and heal our deepest wounds.

Change Through Discomfort

Similarly, true change involves moving from a known reality to an unknown one. It demands that we step out of our comfort zones and into new, sometimes intimidating, spaces. This shift cannot occur without a willingness to endure and grow from the discomfort that such changes bring.

The Role of Loving Confrontation in Growth

As a coach and spiritual guide, I have found that loving confrontation plays a critical role in catalyzing change. It’s not uncommon for my clients to feel a bit agitated when pushed in new directions—it indicates that they are being challenged to evolve. If a guide never provokes irritation or discomfort, they likely aren’t pressing hard enough on the areas that need growth.

I cherish the moments when my clients are stirred by our sessions because it means we are venturing into transformative territory. My intention is not to upset for the sake of upset but to encourage genuine development that leads to lasting change.

Practical Steps to Increase Your Tolerance to Discomfort

Here are some actionable ways to enhance your ability to handle discomfort, which in turn can accelerate your journey toward self-realization:

Stay Peaceful Amidst Triggers: Practice observing your emotional responses without becoming entangled in them. This mindfulness allows you to experience and release emotions without letting them dictate your actions.

Challenge Your Habits: Identify and alter habits that no longer serve your highest good. Even small changes can lead to significant transformations in how you handle discomfort.

Push Your Limits: Regularly engage in activities that stretch your boundaries. This could be anything from public speaking to trying a new sport, or even traveling to unfamiliar places.

Embrace and Learn from Challenges: Instead of complaining about difficult situations, seek ways to understand and integrate the lessons they offer. This mindset turns obstacles into opportunities for growth.

Conclusion

Building a tolerance to discomfort is not just about enduring pain but about transforming it into a catalyst for profound growth. It’s a practice that requires courage, commitment, and a touch of audacity. If you’re ready to embark on a path that embraces true growth and the rewards it brings, I invite you to join our community. Together, we can support each other in turning discomfort into a powerful tool for achieving our deepest desires and becoming our most authentic selves.

Let’s step into our potential, one uncomfortable moment at a time.

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